u/Bigdawgkev1970

My wife and I bought a car for her 4 years ago. The down payment came from our joint account. The monthly payments came from our joint account. We paid the car loan off early. $15,000. We each paid half, my half came from my bank account. Her half came from money her mother gave her. Recently I found out she took out a secured loan against the cat for $10,000. She never discussed it with me. Tonight she told me it's none of my business. It's her car to do whatever she wants with. The money she got from the loan - she gave to her 40 year old son.

Am I the asshole? This upset me. It's a car we both paid for and now she has a loan against - to give her adult son money.