How did you decide to have children if you weren’t always sure?
My husband and I are 30 years old, have been married for 5 years (and together for 10). We’re both in a stable place in our careers, financially settled, and enjoy traveling, hiking, exercising, and socializing on the weekends. In our respective friend groups, a few are starting to have children, but most are still childless with no immediate plans.
Neither one of us are interested in having children in the immediate future, but when I think of my distant-future self I think I’d regret never having children. As time passes, I keep waiting to feel myself growing more and more ready, or more desire to get pregnant, but so far that hasn’t happened. I’m starting to get worried I’m never going to have this feeling of yearning or all consuming assurance that I want to have a baby, and instead we’ll just more or less feel like ‘okay, we’ll it’s now or never.’
For those that didn’t want children and changed their minds, or those in a similar position where you were just waiting for the desire to solidify/materialize, how did it happen?