How to get friends and date?
Hi guys, I need some advice from your experience and recommendations of guidelines or books if applies to improve the ADHD way of relationship regarding to friendship, dating or partnership.
My brief story.
Since my childhood, as a teenager and at my twenties I've been struggling to relation with the people. I see myself as someone empathetic and open to talk. I had some luck, because exists some people that wanted to get close to me. It is interesting that always are people quite eccentric. But that is not thanks to my relational ability.
Fortunately I have one distance friend which we speak sporadically. But can be days-weeks until she answer me.
I have 3 ex-gf. I never experienced "see a girl that I like, start to flirt, achieve dating and/or relationship". No. These girls "picked" me and I took the opportunity. Later during the relationship I started to like them until I felt love for them.
But now... I want to know people. Friends, dating, maybe a girlfriend. And make it possible thanks to my abilities, deal to get closer to the people and be a good friend or partner. I need to improve my skills.
My experience being ADHD is that I have some RSD and I'm too intensive, being a person of "all or nothing". And I procrastinate getting friends or dating because I feel that first I need to "fix my life".
I want to improve this, I'm feeling really alone in this world while it looks all the people are passing a good time.
Thank you.