I think the reason a lot of us are (or stay) awkward is because we are afraid to offend people
And we do offend people. We do. Maybe its in our nature. Ive observed this in myself. Me being comfortable with someone means I have the permission to offend this person. I do not have nervous ticks or speech problems when im around people like that. But when im around new people or people im afraid to offend, my body feels uncomfortable and my mind's filter is running overtime and I end up sounding and looking like a klutz.
Ive noticed the same traits in some real life INTP people or fictional characters too. The ones who are openly offending people around them do not have awkward mannerism but the nice ones do. Im slowly coming to a theory that maybe we are naturally critical people. I mean thats how we filter through all that information right? I can love something, and ill still have fun criticizing the heck out of it. Its fun.
I won't say that the reason we are awkward is because of this 100 percent. But I think its a big part of staying awkward after getting over and processing all the bad stuff we went through socially. Its our inferior Fe, trying to keep social harmony. We don't want people to get upset.
And some people get offended so easily! And we are afraid to be labelled as the villians, for making someone cry, just because we were sharing the truth (truth in the sense of what we think is true, you can never be 100 percent sure).
And i think that this hesitation might be a key think to get over our inferior Fe (ill get to it later) and developing some Se. Ive noticed, that in the groups where I have gradually gotten to a point where I am not afraid to offend anyone, I become very dominant. If I know something is right, no one can stop me and ill convince them all to do it. If someone wants to oppose they can come forward and challenge me.
Now onto the getting over our inferior Fe. Its inferior because we are not naturally good at reading the room. We want everyone to be happy and harmonious. But we do not know how. So we resort to being quiet, or careful to not upset anyone, etc. But we can bypass it. Rather than focusing on filtering out our words, what if we focus on filtering out people. Only associate with people who can listen to the truth (our opinion) without getting offended.
I been giving this advice to other (mostly younger) INTPs on the sub who ask for any advice that you gotta go through a lot of people to finally find the ones that you fit with. Do not try to fit with others. See who fit with you. You'll have to speed run through people, test them, see their reactions, etc. But it wasn't until today when I thought of the connection between Fe and Se. I was in fact once considering if I was an ISTP maybe. But im not. I am an INTP and have been for many years.
Just some thoughts for you guys to consider.