My girlfriend broke up with me last night and I still am not able to understand why.
Last night, my (16M) girlfriend (17F) of 8 months decided to break up with me. Before anyone judges on the ages, please keep an open mind.
We had a very close relationship. We would tell each other everything, see each other at least twice on school weeks and every second day on weekends. We really loved each other, and it was definitely mutual. She would talk about how her worst fear is us breaking up constantly and how she’d never find someone like me again. She always told me how perfect I was and I told her how perfect she was. We both equally expressed how much we loved each other comfortably and constantly.
A week ago we had a slight argument. She has always been someone who loves going out and partying and I have always been someone who prefers to stay in. We set up a couple of days to see each other on the weekend and things came up where she ended up partying with her friends instead. I did express how it made me upset and it made her upset only because of how sad I was about it. Anyway, this went on for a couple of days and last week, we sorted everything out. I told her she is a teenage girl who loves to party and I can’t be sad over her doing that. We made up and things felt great again.
Two days ago, she was texting me about how much she loved me. We’ve talked about our future a lot of times and even a week ago she said “I want to be with you forever”. We haven’t seen each other a lot in the last 3 weeks, only once. Which was why it was really strange to get a message about how things aren’t working out two nights ago. She told me she felt isolated and stressed in the relationship but she still loves me. She said it’d be better if we broke up. I tried to get her to reason as she is usually a person who acts on things and ignores consequences sometimes. She said she had been thinking it for a while and her decision is made. I told her we should talk it all out before making things official.
Last night over the phone, I told her all the things she pointed out that were wrong could be fixed and I didn’t want to give up on us as I love her and we were just talking two days ago about how much we loved each other and wanted to stay together. She replied that there was no changing her mind and that she still loves me but can’t do it and that was that.
She’s an amazing person and I really did see a future with her. I understand I should move on and I’m going to try, truly. It left me overthinking as her friends don’t like me too much and she had been with them nonstop for the past 3 weeks. I think what’s really eating me up is that I simply really just don’t know why. It seemed like she was searching for reasons to break up with me. It’s left me bothered.
Though I am obviously struggling right now I should be fine, I have an amazing family supporting me and a great group of friends that have my back. I have a film project I am working on as well that will hopefully help me get my mind off things. I just hope I can get people’s opinion on my situation.
TL;DR:
My girlfriend and I have a close relationship where we told each other how much we loved each other until out of the blue she wanted to break up with me because she was feeling stressed. I tried to explain she may be thinking out of emotion for something so big but she insisted and we were finished. She was hanging with her friends a lot recently, who don’t like me a lot and I’m wondering if that played a part. I’m wondering what happened still.