Understanding how a loving ENTJ can suddenly block me
I've been in a relationship with an ENTJ (m) for 5 months. At first I was a bit hesitant dating him being an ENFJ (f) and having my own qualms about ENTJ's dominant side and whether we'd clash. Surprisingly we're really compatible - our energy and proactive lifestyle. Apart from the fact that he was a slave to routine, had rigid and structured patterns , a bit of a perfectionist with a mild case of OCD. But we still balanced and complimented each other really well and grew to love each other. He was always talking about us in terms of the future. He's a planner and even made travel plans for us in September, spending xmas together, marriage even. I'm a J but only professionally. I don't really plan or think too far into the future and go naturally with the flow of how things are in the present. Having too many expectations can create room for disappointment so I tend to just live in the moment.
He was always great at communicating and no matter how busy he was, he'd go out of his way to always tell me his schedule, call me during his commutes or any minute he could without me asking. I appreciated that and knew that was his way of showing he cared.
Last month, I had to go overseas for work and have to be here for 3 months. He said the distance wouldn't matter at all and when I got here, we'd FaceTime and call every day and it wasn't any different at first. It was really hard for both of us, I'd miss him so much but because of the time difference and busy schedules, the calls and texts were less and less. It went from everyday to calling once a week. He was so busy but I would be understand but I just started feeling disappointed or let down because even when was free, he made less effort and seemed disinterested. I brought it up to him since we're always openly honest but I'm more expressive than he is being an F I'm transparent about my feelings. He apologized saying he's just been really busy. Then I suggested maybe we should take a break maybe not contact each other a month and see how it pans out. He was mad and cold that I even suggested that. He said he didn't want to lose contact and suddenly got defensive, asking me if I was doing this to get back at him for something he couldn't control. Bluntly says it sounded like I was threatening him with no contact because I only cared about myself and how hard it was for me and making him feel bad about it when he did nothing wrong. I was so caught off guard since he had never spoken to me in that tone or in that way before. He was making me sound manipulative like I was playing mind games - which I wasn't nor am I that kind of person. I just got upset that he could even think that of me and I told him, if anything, this suggestion hurts me more. I only suggested it cuz I missed him so much and I felt like since he was so busy, the lack of contact would just make me feel sad, I thought taking a break would make me think of him less, which in turn make me miss him less. But he was just mad at me and I felt like anything he said just upset me more. He didn't want to lose contact and I said, let's try it for a month. And he hung mad, I was in tears.
I didn't even last a week, it was 5 days later when I texted him saying I realized I was wrong and to call me. I called him, he didn't answer. I didn't think anything of it, assuming he'd call me back when he was free. a day goes by - nothing. texted him again to please call me. No reply to text or calls. 4 days go by and at this point, I couldn't even fathom the possibility that he'd ever block me. Started worrying and getting anxious and upset. He has never left me without reply or call especially when I'm asking him to call me back. I tried calling him and messaged him again on WhatsApp instead. He's not even reading them or responding again. Then I realized he actually blocked me.. I cannot believe or understand how or why he could do this to me? this is a man who up until a week ago was telling me he loved me and our travel plans in September. We didn't even have a fight, we just disagreed on the break, and he suddenly blocks me just because I suggested we take a no contact break for a month?? This was not because feelings have changed but because I miss him so much and his busy schedule was not allowing us to keep in touch as often anyway? I have been so hurt and devastated. Just been trying to rack my brain and understand how or why he could think to block me? And me being thousands of miles away, I feel helpless and there's nothing I can do. And he knows I'm out here alone with no friends or family, so I'd obviously be devastated by his block. And for whatever reason he wanted to block me, maybe he found another girl in a week (I don't know), but how could he not have the decency to even say a single word to me or reply to me. I would've rather him cussed me out or tell me he's done. Say anything and then block me, especially when I'm admitting I was wrong and clearly making multiple attempts to reach him.
ENTJ's please help give me some perspective? how or why he would block me? Is this vengeance and his way at getting back at me? Does he just not care at all? How can you just switch on and off that quick within a week? And no matter how mad you are, can you seriously block someone you said you ever cared about just like they never existed? Just discard them? I have lost sleep and my appetite the past few days trying to understand and I cannot. We have travel plans in September and I don't even know what's gonna happen with that.