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So I’ve been doing some research into ADHD (as some people say i probably have it) and i noticed some character overlap with being an ENTJ.

As a product of childhood trauma, i read that the symptoms of trauma can lead to ADHD like symptoms. Which is curious because childhood trauma can also develop into ENTJ personalities.

So im super curious to see how many of my fellow ENTJs are diagnosed with or suspect that they have ADHD.

Not sure if spotify playlists are allowed here or not cuz self promotion but curious to see your playlists and/or just a list of your favorite songs!

All the ones on Spotify for ENTJs are all generic high-BPM “Imma boss bitch” type of music and it’s… well.. not to my liking unless I’m working out LMAO

If so, how do you handle it and are you worried about it long term? I ask this because Te users are said to be very industrious, conscientious and don't shy away from hard work but this can also backfire on them when they become workaholics or are in high performance positions. So my hypothesis is half the ENTJs are Burt out but the other half are doing OK or even thriving.

Where do you fall on the spectrum?

It can be any kind of pressure. Academic, career, marital, religious, societal etc

As an ENTJ, I built a goal-designing tool to eliminate inefficient overthinking and help people set clear goals. I use it very well and find it highly useful, but there is almost no user retention.

Does this tool only fit the ENTJ mindset?

That’s why I need sharp, honest feedback from fellow ENTJs to improve the app and figure out what's missing.

I genuinely need your advice, so I'm writing the link as "ahopkhan com" to prevent the post from being automatically filtered out as spam.

I truly need the sheer capability and fire of fellow ENTJs. Anyone willing to share their insights?

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On the main MBTI subreddit, there was a post earlier asking about the difference between ESTJ and ENTJ, which was removed because it was a typing post.

Even though I don’t know any ENTJs to help, I had written a post explaining to the OP how the three other Te users react to a mistake caused by my inferior Si. The goal was to give them an idea of the impact of the Si, Ne, and Ni functions when combined with Te (and not Se in this case). But writing that response actually made me curious about how ENTJs would react in the situation described. Here is a copy of the response:

Let’s say I make a mistake due to my inferior Si for example, I accidentally switch the x-axis and y-axis in a presentation. But then I notice it and provide an analysis of my mistake: how it happened, what it implies, and how to correct it.

An ISTJ with dominant Si and inferior Ne would panic and catastrophize. For them, the project is basically ruined; there’s no point continuing anymore, we might as well give up entirely.

An ESTJ with auxiliary Si and tertiary Ne would complain, but still take the analysis and proposed corrections into account and apply them. However, they would grumble the whole time, explaining that I should have paid more attention in the first place; that while correcting mistakes is good, it’s even better not to make them at all and not waste three hours fixing them.

Whereas an INTJ (the only Ni–Te example I have, since I don’t know any ENTJs) would take the mistakes into account and actually find them interesting because they help enrich their system. They’re additional data to integrate, and since I already have both a solution and an interpretation, they’re satisfied.

Hello! I'm tryna improve my leadership skills.

My main question is:

How to make yourself be respected by everyone without being mean?

I got to a new High school recently and I hadn't realized how respected and well-treated I was at my other High school until I got to a new one, I had forgotten how hard it actually it is to promote yourself properly.

I also think that my first impression wasn't the best because I was going throught a hard moment of my life when I was new here so I had a bad temper all the time and a serious face

I wasn't respected there because they were just "kind" or "nice", I actually had some "status" if you can say so.

I am really tired of not being taken seriously by my new classmates, I want to be respected but I don't want to be rude or too abrupt.

(I'm a ENTJ just in case)

I literally love our se lol ,I can go from a boss to a little kid in seconds

It's so low cortisol coded , although I might regret some shit I do in that time ,but it's fun 🫵

Inferior Fi makes career direction brutal for ENTJs. Too many ENTJs make the same career mistake. Pursue something hard,end up unhappy, switch,repeat. That is also my story. My current take is that Ni has to come back in. Connect what you're doing to something bigger than the next win.

Is there something you'd advise an ENTJ in that situation, other than "figure out what you want," which isn't exactly possible?

In any setting I don’t want to be responsible for anyone, but myself. I don’t like telling people what to do, mainly because it is frustrating that people don’t know the most efficient / best way. I expect people to think like me I suppose. Should I force myself to try leadership roles because I’m supposed to excel there?

Another reason is because I don’t want the responsibility. I don’t want to be at fault if something goes wrong, I want to be replaceable so I can take vacation whenever I want lol.

I probably avoid leadership because:

I hate being trapped

I don’t want other people’s mistakes attached to me

I value autonomy more than status

I've seen managers burn out

Even leaders still have bosses, and I feel like they're on a closer leash of control than the little guys

I prefer expertise roles over personnel management

Any other ENTJ feel similar?

HAHAHHAA. All three ENTJs I’ve been mates with and we’ve made a Spotify blend and it was their idea 😂 I’m grateful for the existence of Spotify blends man

I hit a point last year where I was winning on paper but felt weirdly bored and restless anyway. I had a good job, a clear trajectory, and decent money, but I still had this low-level alarm going off in the background telling me I was wasting my life. It was infuriating because there was no logical reason for me to feel so stuck.

I finally got so fed up that I started running my life like a company I was chairing. Every three months, I forced myself to sit down for an hour and do a completely cold, analytical review of my own life.

I started asking myself what was actually working, what was costing me too much energy with zero payoff, and where I was flat-out lying to myself with a nice story, like telling myself "it's just a busy season" for the fifth year in a row.

When I first started doing this, I just scribbled the answers in a notebook, but I eventually took the coached work assessment to get a cleaner, more objective look at my patterns. Helped me map out my core driving motivators versus the things that were just feeding my ego.

I realized that I didn't actually hate my career field, I just absolutely hated the specific corporate culture I was in. It gave me the data-driven push I needed to stop daydreaming about dropping everything to pivot into a random new industry, and instead focus on fixing my immediate environment.

I set a rule that I can only have three priorities per quarter, and at least one has to have nothing to do with work, like the gym or my sleep schedule. I started ruthlessly saying no to meetings that didn't align with those goals, and my calendar went from total chaos to actually breathable in about two weeks. I even cut ties with a few one-sided friendships once I looked at them on paper and realized they were just draining me.

I’m still doing these reviews every quarter, and it’s the only thing keeping me sane. I'm wondering if anyone else operates this way, or if I am just completely over-ENTJing my own life.

okay, so I can pick up new concepts quickly, think deeply, recognize patterns really fast, solve problems, and work REALLY hard on things I actually care about outside of school/work. But when it comes to academics, I’ve never had that same motivation or discipline, even though I know I’m capable.

I always feel weird because people assume that if you’re intelligent, you should automatically be good at school or obsessed with achievement. Meanwhile, I can grind for hours on hobbies, projects, fitness, learning random interests, etc., but struggle to care about grades or traditional academic success. I don’t know why, but I just don’t like the idea of studying for the sake of getting the “A.” If I want to learn, I want to learn things I find useful in the near future or things that give me fundamental knowledge for something else.

My grades are fine, but I genuinely don’t study a lot or work that hard in classes to excel. I literally do the absolute bare minimum to scrape by with an A, meanwhile I’ll bust my ass for non-academic stuff. And this concerns me a lot considering i want to pursue a career in medicine in the future, and literally medical school is all about studying - i really need advice on how to navigate this

Curious if anyone else relates, or if there’s a better way to understand this. Maybe I’m just not disciplined enough academically. or i just dont feel nor see the immediate impact on a greater scheme

l’ve taken multiple tests over time and consistently got ENTJ, while my Enneagram result was usually 8w7/E8. But whenever I mention that combination, people immediately say ENTJ 8w7 can’t correlate or coexist.

I’m asking this out of genuine curiosity rather than trying to force a label onto myself. Is there actually a solid reason people think ENTJ and 8w7 are incompatible, or is it just a community stereotype?

I took this test over the course of 3 days because I made sure to linger on each question until I was totally certain

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Hey y'all,

As an ESTP I want to share something I consistently notice with ENTJs and get your honest opinions.

Every time I offer criticism or a different perspective to an ENTJ the energy shifts immediately. They seem to go into this dominant "I will not lose this" mode where the conversation stops being a discussion and starts feeling like a debate they need to win.

Unlike ENFJs who tend to get emotionally hurt by criticism ENTJs seem to respond by immediately escalating their logical dominance. Like they turn up the intensity until you either agree or back down.

I respect ENTJs enormously. Their drive, vision and decisiveness is genuinely impressive. But honest two way conversation can feel exhausting sometimes because any challenge to their thinking seems to activate their competitive side immediately.

My questions for everyone here:

1. Do actual ENTJs recognise this pattern in yourselves?

2. Is this the ENTJ way of processing criticism or is it something else?

3. How do you actually get through to an ENTJ with honest feedback?

4. Other types — do you experience this same dynamic with ENTJs?

Not trying to bash ENTJs at all genuinely trying to understand the dynamic better!

— An ESTP trying to navigate conversations with ENTJs without losing my mind 😂

Sunflowers represent adoration and loyalty, and always face their energy source (the sun.)

Young sunflowers track the sun as it moves through the day; mature sunflowers eventually stop tracking the sun and always point east.

To me, this represents the ENTJ's maturity, where an ENTJ learns to trust their confidence and know that they are always oriented where they need to be.

I don't know how to explain this

But I get the

(Is this it ?) After I achieved something good,I don't find enjoyment in it

I have noticed that I enjoy the challenge itself in achieving that thing,the hard work.

after it's done

After I've conquered something,it holds no significant weight..

How do you explain this ?

Heya! So, I'm writing a story with a highschool setting (Filipino Highschool, if that helps).

I have two main characters, love interests—a female ENTJ and a male ESTJ. The ENTJ is an overachiever, both academically and extracurricular-wise (in the "STE section" for the pinoys that know). The ESTJ is class representative/mayor of his class, is active in extracurriculars, and although doesn't excel much in acads still works hard and gets recognized for his work.

The story is about the ESTJ getting recommended the ENTJ (sorry, i don't know the term for "reto" in english). The plot hasn't full fleshed yet, so for now I just want to know how their dynamic will work. How will they fall in love eventually?

Also a little more details, the ESTJ here is quite charming and the ENTJ, despite being academically intelligent, falls short on simple things like recognizing whether someone is hitting on her or not, lol. I feel like that'd be a very funny detail. My younger sister is like that too (she's an ENTJ) but I am too freaked out to ask her about this.

Any thoughts? Would like to hear from ENTJs and ESTJs who can help me out here. I just think ENTJ x ESTJ would make such an interesting couple in fiction and I'd appreciate your suggestions :)

I posted this in another subreddit, but maybe people with my same type can understand me better and give more targeted advice.

My husband is a university professor and just goes to work when he has lessons. I don't feel attracted to him when he stays home when I go to work and find him home when I return. We also have a one years old baby who stays at daycare for 4 and a half hours a day.

I think a father's job is to support the mother so that she can better take care of the baby, not the father staying home more with the baby while the mother works, or drifting in cafes or visiting his parents while the wife works.

I find it impossible to be attracted to him even though I try. He is successful and earns more than me and contributes more than me financially.

I have told him that I would leave my job to stay with the baby, he said that he doesn't want parasites and likes independent people. I could leave my job, but he would still be there all day like when I was on maternity leave and I started to feel suffocated by his presence and my attraction to him dropped quickly. We would be 24/7 together and with the baby in the days he didn't have lessons. He has told me to leave my job if I want, but he won't work more because he wants time with the family too. But in reality he spends more time with the baby than me, and also time alone when the baby is in daycare and I am at work.

He says that he has deserved this "free time" because he worked hard when he was a straight A student. So I choose an ambitious, successful man and now it has turned to this now. Thinks that I am jealous of his job (not at all in reality).

How can this be resolved? This might seem like a small problem to have but living it every day becomes big. I can not bring myself to have sex with my husband knowing he has spend all his day hours drifting in cafés and is home with the baby at 1 pm. And this repeats day after day.

Please don't judge me, I am talking about a real situation here (the loss of attraction), not trying to attack my husband.

I think my husband definitely is an infj.