AITA I know I’m the jerk. I honestly just want to know what I can do better, no filter. Just wanna make the right decision.
My wife has DID. She switches when she gets triggered, and I feel like she gets triggered when I try to have an honest conversation with her in the kindest and most understandable perspective about problems we may both have. And if I might notice I’m not being fair or even understanding I try to correct myself. I know I’m not always right, but I feel like when she switches I have to re-iterate over and over and over and over. (I might’ve ignorantly thought her alters would’ve remembered the conversations when I’ve spoken to each about it) But it gets frustrating to have to set boundaries over and over and over. But I’m having trouble communicating something softly with someone who seems to not wanna hear me when I’m being very kind and receptive to the fact she might have trouble with the context or my own faults. And I only do it when it’s important to me, or when I wanna make sure she’s safe. Idk if I’m being heard, I’m feeling ignored but there’s no way I’d ignore her perspective. I just want help moving forward. Cause I’ve been trying to do best by her. Please lmk.