My wife left and I feel stupid for not seeing it coming
My (afab) wife (mtf) ended things a few months ago. She said she doesn’t have romantic feelings for me any more. We still talk a lot, and sometimes we’ll talk about us and I’ll ask if I did something wrong or if I could have done something different and she always says no, that her feelings for me just changed over time. When she came out a few years ago a lot of people told me that it would change our relationship and while I knew that was true I told everyone we still loved each other and that that would never change. Thinking about that makes me feel so stupid now lol. But I don’t regret anything except not trying harder to make her happy, but if what she says is true idk if that would’ve even made a difference. It’s just so hard to come to terms with. I wish I had something tangible to blame for this. Something I could work on or try to fix about myself. I don’t think this is happening because she is trans, but a lot of friends and family think it is a big part of the reason. I know no one else can speak for her but has anyone been through something similar? I just feel so alone rn