Am I overreacting for contemplating breaking up with my bf of 6 years for being too sexual?
My boyfriend and I are both 27, have been together for 6 years, and we live together too. Little backstory: A couple seasons ago while snowboarding I got hit pretty hard by a newbie on the slopes who didn’t have control over his board, he ran into me super hard and I slammed down onto my back and my head so hard that the wind got knocked out of me and I had pretty decent whiplash. Of course I always wear a helmet but obviously it still hurt. Ever since then I’ve had this intermittent back pain in the middle of my back and recently it’s been flaring up a lot more. Especially after working all day..I work 12 hr shifts as a nurse.
Anyways I’ve been talking to him about how my back is killing me. I told him that lately I feel misaligned and that my gait feels off and I feel that I’m compensating with my right hip somehow because of it. (My hip has been starting to hurt too). While at work, one of my coworkers told me that I did look like I was standing kind of crooked.
When I got home that day I told my bf what she said and I asked him to please look at my back for me. He said Ok and I took my shirt off so he could see my spine, and he said it did look like I was standing a little lopsided. I told him I was gonna bend over slowly and touch my toes and show him where it was hurting and asked if there was anything glaringly obvious that he could see. While I’m bending over he gets behind me and starts to hump me. Immediately I stood up super annoyed and pushed him away from me and said something along the lines of “are you kidding me rn why does everything have to be a freaking joke to you” I thought he was gonna be serious for once and help me.
He starts instantly apologizing and says come back here I’ll be serious. so I go back over to him, and he starts to hump me again. He’s laughing but at this point I leave the room, go take a shower, I don’t talk to him because I’m fuming, I’m tired, my back hurts, and I work again the next day. When he comes to bed he has the audacity to not understand (or pretend to not understand) how I’m not in the “mood”. He also was trying to say that “the snowboarding thing happened so long ago” and “he didn’t even hit you that hard” so he doesn’t think it did anything to my back. So now I’m even more angry because not only do I feel dismissed and disrespected, but I now think he’s an idiot too.
This situation just made me think of other times with him where I feel like he’s being dismissive, not just with me but towards his friends and family too. But now I’m having this crisis where I don’t know if this person is who I want to be my life partner. Is he going to be dependable when I need him to? Can I count on him when something serious happens? We’ve been together so long and normally get along so well but this felt like such a big deal to me. Any advice or input is appreciated. I’m writing this pretty quickly so it’s not the most eloquently worded but I’m curious to hear feedback.