AITA for telling my mom she can’t wear white to a friend’s wedding?
Hello everyone!
So me (25F) and my mum (50F) are going to a friend’s wedding soon and wants to wear a dress that is mostly white, although it is only while on the top and is grey on the bottom half. In my opinion, it still reads as a white dress.
I told her I don’t think she should wear it because, at least where we live and socially, wearing white to someone else’s wedding is generally seen as disrespectful unless the bride specifically says it’s okay.Her argument is that she wore the same dress to another wedding before and nobody cared. But at that wedding, she had actually asked the bride beforehand, and the bride explicitly said it was fine. This time she hasn’t asked.
She’s also saying that “people in our culture don’t care about that,” but that’s not really true. Even some of the bridesmaids for this wedding have said they don’t think guests should wear white. I’m personally wearing purple because I feel like it goes without saying not to wear white to a wedding.
The bride is also younger than the previous bride whose wedding we attended, and I honestly think age/personality might make a difference in how people feel about it. We’re not super close to this bride either, which makes me feel like it’s even more important not to risk offending her.
My mum thinks I’m overreacting and being dramatic, and I feel bad about making it a big deal but I feel like it’s basic wedding etiquette. AITA?
(I added a photo of the dress she wants to wear below)
