AITA for not enjoying my birthday party that was Forced on me.
Hi, I just turned 21
A little bit of background: due to a series of unfortunate events, I now live aunt G. Aunt G is a very republican Christian With a severe drinking problem. we often don't see eye to eye. But I learned very quickly if I shut up. And don't say anything, then she won't yell Since it was my 21st birthday, I didn't want anyone else to plan it. I wanted to finally do the adult thing and plan my own birthday party. I asked Aunt. G. What do you think would be good for the family. And she said: " We should call Your uncle and see if we can host a party at his house. It'll be so much cheaper than all of us going out. We can even get big party trays Italian food. You always love Italian food. I would love some manicottia." Now I understand it sounds like a nice idea except for a few key points. Number 1, asking to host a party at someone else's house, is incredibly rude. Number 2, I didn't even want Italian food. Not that there's anything wrong with Italian food. I just wanted something else. Number 3. When you go out to a restaurant, you will have a social obligation to drink a certain amount. And to not start a fight. If we have a party at home, there is no drinking limit. Number 4, an adult should have an adult outing. I'm not 11 years old, where all I care about is cake and presents. I want an actual enjoyable dinner with my family in a nice restaurant. But my aunt g is someone you can very rarely reason with. I have very high anxiety, and I generally get scared when people yell at me. (PTSD) So I thought I'd meet in the middle. So I told her I would consider Italian food and I would try to find a restaurant that had relatively cheap food and wine list. And that's what I did. I posted to the group chat where I had planned my birthday. And I thought everything was good. then a message popped up in the group chat, saying the birthday plans had changed and that they were happening at our house. I told Aunt g how genuinely pissed I was. And she had yelled at me and called me selfish. Talking down to me like a little kid. She came in and showed me the price that she would pay for everyone at the dinner. She has never been obligated to pay for the whole dinner. And then continues to yell at me, even after I'm crying and shaking, because I'm genuinely scared. So the party happens today. And I'm already not in a good mood when I wake up. I see decorations everywhere. And I made the mistake of saying aloud that they seem a bit. She flies into a rage. I start crying again. And nothing ever really gets settled. I'm out running errands. And she's working. Getting mad at me because she's stressed about a party She created. The party happens, and she continually makes backhanded comments towards me all day. Everyone can tell something is wrong, but no one is in the place to stand up and say something. and Aunt g is on 2 bottles of wine. I try to be happy and appreciate the work She did, but I honestly can't. After she yelled at me. AITA