I (19 F) hurt my boyfriend (22 M), is the relationship done or is there still a chance?
Excuse my chaotic english but i'm a bit of a mess right now.
So everything started 3 days ago. I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and it is a pretty new relationship (around 2 months) and everything was going well. We met in my city and i have already visited him since (that was around 2 weeks ago). 3 Days ago we were talking and that day i was in a funny mood but not really in a good way i was teasing him a lot etc. He goes to the gym and he uses 16kg for biceps and reps it a few times and that evening because of my funny mood i was overconfident and told him i thought i could rep 16kg once (even though i’m pretty sure i couldn’t) and later he asked me to rate his body from 1 to 10. At first i didn’t want to answer the question and denied 3-5 times but he really wanted to so i ended up answering but i answered 6/10 which really hurt him.
I absolutely don’t think he is a 6/10 i really don’t know why i said that but what is said is said and it really hurt him. I know this was such a dumb comment and i really regret it so much. That evening he was really quiet after that and also a bit awkward the day after so yesterday i sent him a long paragraph in the morning apologizing once again and telling him how much i love him how perfect i think he is etc and he said he would answer later so in the evening while we were calling he said we needed to talk and we started talking about the situation.
He told me it did change his sight of how i see him and it did hurt him a lot and i kept apologizing and saying i didn’t mean it at all and it doesn’t reflect my true feelings at all. He then told me there were othert hings he had to think about and that this comment was kind of just the cherry on top that pushed him to think about all of that. One of the things ist the fact that we’re long distance and that he finds it really tough because the daily evening calls sometimes feel like a task and that it’s different living near each other because you can just chill together when there is nothing new to talk about but on call it sometimes feels like dragging the conversation.
I did bring a few ideas how we could fix that for example we could meet halfway to spend a day together (2h30 train ride) so we can see each other more often and that next semester i would have much more time so i could come visit more often etc.
The other hing he told me he was thinking about a lot did hurt me a lot because he said it bothers him that i listen to bts (he is asian) and he considers me more than just a bts fan (because i’m going to 4 bts concerts this summer and he thinks it's excessive) and he’s scared i just like him for his looks and this hurt me a lot because it already is something i struggle with and i’m ashamed of. I don’t like to tell people that i listen to bts especially to guys i’m talking to because i used to be made fun of because of that and i’m scared of being put in that koreaboo drawer. So it really hurt me to hear that he was having doubts because of that too because it was like my fear coming to life.
He then told me he just needed time to think. I kept askin if i could do anything or change anything but he said no so now i just feel really anxious and helpless waiting and i also asked him how he would like me to act and if he wanted me to give him space and he said that would be nice so now i didn’t text him today and i’m letting him pick the pace and how much he wants to talk.
Since he had told me once that he falls in love quickly but also falls out of love quickly i asked him if he lost some feelings for me which he then said he did a bit. I asked him to rate his feelings from 1 to 10 if 10 were his feelings before but he could not rate them and told me he struggled to be in touch with his feelings and identify his feelings especially love. I have train tickets booked (i booked them a long time ago) to visit him next week. I’m really scared now that he will break up with me because i really love him and even in that short time i already pictured spending my whole life with him.
What do you think is most likely to happen?