TL;DR; : SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED DIVORCE ISNT AN OPTION, DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.
Edit -my kid with medical issue- im taking care of this 100%. maybe once a year that he had to pick medication for him thats it. i already set all the plans for my kid, and this was all done on my own. 90% of chores around the house, i do it all. make sure he gets massage almost every night.
I’m dealing with something that’s been weighing on me for a long time. We’ve been married 20 years and have one son and one daughter. I take care of myself. I work out about four times a week and my body hasn't changed much ever since. I take good care of my self. I’m only saying this because I don’t want this to turn into “he is not attracted to you because I let myself go” — that’s not the issue. We have sex about once every two weeks. I would honestly want it to be once or twice a week. I think my sex drive is pretty high, but my husband doesn’t seem interested in meeting me there. I do understand he’s under a lot of stress at work, so I’m not completely dismissing that. But I’ve been dealing with this for over 10 years now, and it’s starting to wear me down. When I’m out, I still get a lot of attention. Men flirt, and some even ask for my number. I shut it down immediately every time — I’ve never even come close to cheating.
Sometimes it even feels like he avoids touching me on purpose. He says my self-esteem is already too high. But I don’t need validation from other people. The only attention that I want is from him — which I’m getting ZERO. And that’s what makes this feel so sad. It just feels… empty. Divorce isn’t really an option for me. (We have two teenagers, and one of them has severe medical issues.- which im taking care of this 100percent. he just gets worried. i do all of this care. main reason i work only part time wfh job so this burden is NOT on him other than getting worried) So I don’t know what to do anymore. My husband has a strong ego, and when I try to bring this up, especially with his stress and personality, he just shuts it down. I’m honestly just exhausted.