u/BoredKitKat26

Is it bad I need him to survive?

ik it’s just feelings and it’s not inherently real but it feels so real. i get like this sometimes and i feel so stupid for it but i genuinely feel i need him to breathe. i’d do anything for him to give me affection or tell me he loves me i need him to love me because i love him so much and if he doesn’t want me or leaves me idk what id do it just makes my heart drop and i feel like i wanna disappear what’s wrong with me? i feel like hes getting sick of me by now i have a lot of mood swings and its like i become a different person i can be high and happy and singing to myself and energetic or i can be normal tired me or i can be logical and numb/angry depending thats able to cut everyone off or i can just shrink into this person i can obey because i need love i need you to love me. i need him to love me but i feel like hes getting tired of me hes been so nice and caring and trying to be there for me but i just keep fucking it up. i even get into this weird zone sometimes where i feel like im in a strangers body and he tried to help with these wave and tide analogies of my consciousness or something flowing back but i go mental cause i can literally imagine it and feel it physically and i don’t like it touching me and i don’t like it in me and i feel it in me and i just need it out so i usually end up cutting myself and he hates that and it’s happened twice already i don’t normally give into the intense thoughts of cutting but im just slipping im slowly getting worse and im so scared he’ll give up on me which he really should cause if he doesn’t i’m just gonna keep hurting him i hate that im like this but no matter how hard i try something always slips out i hate being here and i hate being like this how do i fix it? how can i be normal.

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u/BoredKitKat26 — 2 days ago

I don’t know what’s wrong with me

It didn’t use to be this bad it used to be just bad attachment issues and multiple like sides. ik i sound crazy and maybe i am but it’s what i have like ever since a shitty thing happened at 14 i’ve had an apathetic side, that really emotional needy side that cries the second the person we’re attached to leaves/gives the slightest rejection and the performative side that just fucks my life over sometimes and gets us into more bad situations. my life has just got downhill since then but it’s all internal, on the outside my school is fine my relationships are fine but i’m just drowning. and the only person who knows is the one i’m attached to and they see everything and im so sorry. they know the shit i’ve done over and over and some that i keep doing but just my emotions are so all over the place. like yesterday he was busy at the gym or something but when he didn’t reply and i had already felt lonely my brain just started lying to me and saying he didn’t love me and how nobody loves me and im just an object like always and that he doesn’t love me anymore and i just kept spiraling until he eventually replied and i blew up at him and ignored him for a few hours and im sorry he always puts up with my shit and we’ve already broken up a few times because of me deciding to cut him off or me wanting to end things so i don’t bring him down with me but he’s just the best person ever and i don’t deserve him. even now im crying like a little bitch and i’m writing all this because he had to go to a fucking haircut and i’m lonely it’s so pathetic the second he said bye my heart dropped and why am i like this?? im so hot and cold cause then the apathetic side comes out and gets annoyed that we’re so dependent on him cause i literally need him to breath and she just cuts him off or starts a fight and leaves and i get sad and i hate im like this cause nobody knows and i show up to work almost crying but i can’t tell anyone i cant do anything im trapped and alone and probably spiraling rn but i cant stop it im just always gonna be alone and i deserve it im nothing i hate myself im so sorry that he has to deal with me idk why he does i dont deserve it i dont deserve to be happy im sorry why am i like this? sometimes i just wanna die cause that’d be easier, or the opposite i get random highs sometimes and i do things like cut my hair or idk something else impulsive like make stupid posts and play minecraft with randos haha or im just way more social and weird seeming irl like singing to myself and chatting with coworkers more just joking around WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME SOMETIMES J JUST WANNA DIE HOW LONG CAN I KEEP GOING LIFE JS JUST ONE THING AGTER THE OTHER AND IM SO PATHETIC BUT ITD BE SUCH A WASTE KF MY TIME AF THE SAME TIME AND LIKE HOW DID I GWT RHIS FAR??? I DONT DESERVE ANY OF THIS BUT NOBODY CSN HELP WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?? WHAT IS FUCKING WRONG WITH ME I NEED SOMEONE TO TELL ME FUCKING BITCH

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u/BoredKitKat26 — 9 days ago