35M | adopted two girls | never been married
Hi, I'm 35M working as SDE, I'm only writing this post to know whether I still have a chance of finding a life partner as I've faced repeated rejections in the AM process after my breakup.
So two years ago, I adopted my two nieces (ages 7 and 4 now) they are daughters of my late brother and SIL. Since then I've been living with my parents and raising my nieces together as a family.
I was in a long-term relationship, after that ended I took some time to focus on myself and started looking for an arranged marriage match earlier this year.
So far, I've faced several rejections which I understand as my situation may not be easy for everyone to accept.
I'm always upfront that my nieces are my daughters now and I am their parent and legal guardian. They will always be my responsibility. After my parents are no longer with us, I will have full custody of them and that's non negotiable for me.
That said, I'm open to living separately from my parents if my future partner prefers that. We can stay nearby so my parents and nieces remain close, while I continue to fulfill my responsibilities toward my nieces.
Another thing is that I don't plan to have biological children. I already have two daughters to raise and I don't believe I can raise three kids in this economy. Rather than being unfair to a future biological child, I've decided not to have one.
This has been another major reason for rejection, as most of the women I've met understandably want children of their own.
Apart from this, I have always been focused on my career and doing great in my professional life, my parents are independent too so I don't have any other responsibility.
I'd genuinely appreciate any suggestions or perspectives. Do you think someone in my situation still has a realistic chance of finding a compatible partner?