My wife had a breakdown, asked for a divorce and wants me to have sole custody.
My wife (F44) has had a bit of a rollercoaster of a time with her mental health over the last few years. I (M44) thought she was beginning to come through it with her ADHD medication being sorted, which seems to have put everything else onto more of an even keel. More recently though, over the last couple of months, her anxiety has been increasingly bad and she's showing signs of mental and physical exhaustion.
My daughter (F8) can be a quite whiny at times, she doesn't like things touching her, her clothes routinely feel too itchy and wrong and she struggles moving from one task to another, often getting stuck and frustrated making us late getting ready for things or going places. This, combined with her mother's rampant RSD means that they rub each other up the wrong way leaving me to adjudicate and my wife coming away feeling like the worst person ever.
On Saturday they were both on the sofa watching Wicked while I was doing my physiotherapy/training in the garage as I'm recovering from someone nearly killing me with their car last year. The child was being a bit squished as my wife was laying down and started whinging and didn't want to lay with her mum any more. Suddenly my wife stormed out of the house and disappeared for a couple of hours, leaving her phone at home. Since she has come back she's been shut away in either the spare bedroom or her office playing Animal Crossing. She's barely spoken to either of us, only to cry at me and tell me that she feels like the worst parent ever and that the child and I would be better off without her.
I have suggested that she talks to the GP but she's not able to articulate how she feels currently and mental health support comes with a 12 month plus waiting list. I don't for a moment believe that she really wants out of our lives but I'm not sure how to address the root cause of all of this with her. I'm not willing to give up on the woman that I love and who has been my rock since my incident but I'm at a loss with how to resolve this for her.
Apologies for spelling and formatting, my phone has a mint of its own.