u/BornEquipment4251

I 39F have been dating a guy 41M. He was married for 18 years, has been divorced for 3 and shares 3 children ages 21,19 and 10 with his ex wife. I will say when we first met, it was probably the most fun exciting first 3 months. He made initiatives to plan dates, we would go to dinner, we would ride scooters down town and just truly had a great time. Once the onion layers started to peel back, I noticed he managed to always remind me that he had been married, or every story about his past involved his ex wife… granted they had been together since teens. At first I though hmm okay, but then grew tired fairly quickly of hearing the stories and I addressed it with him that it made me feel uncomfortable. Going back to when we first met, he had recently had his vehicle stolen so he was without a vehicle for 3 months. Needless to say I grew very tired of the constant complaining about having to pay weekly for rentals cars but luckily he finally managed to get a new car. After sometime he invited me to his apartment… in which I was a little taken back. Not to be judgmental at all but his apartment literally looked like a 19 year old that had just moved out on his own. I looked past it but fast forward 6 months in… no improvement to the apartment. Shortly after he had gotten his vehicle the dates completely stopped and he started to opt with just hanging out at his apartment. It really wasn’t the dating experience I had hoped for so I pulled back in my efforts as well. He begin to tell me that I had changed and I was not doing all the things I were before. I asked if he thought he had changed and he said the only thing that changed was I can’t afford $200-$300 dates every week. Although I understand everyone’s finances are different I have to disagree with his quoted amount of $200-$300 dates each week. Another thing I started to notice is that he is extremely lackadaisical. I would love for him to pick up a few hobbies or do more things that he enjoys besides sleeping. He is a plumber and although it’s a physical job he just never seems to have energy to do anything else. I also begin to see that he can be extremely needy. Such as asking me to cook, back rubs, skincare, even bathing him. And that has turned me completely off. In addition to sleeping he seems to always want to spend time with me all the time instead of studying for his upcoming master plumber exam. I’ve seen him put little to no effort towards studying. I by the way am I single mom of two daughters, I have my own home, I make pretty descent money and I am very self sufficient. I sometimes feel bad that I am irritated by his constant request of needing things from me. It’s to the point that I opt to go days in between seeing him just to get a break in hopes he will use that time to pour into his own things. He’s recently told me that I am impatient with him and it hurts his feekings. Am I being to hard on him? Is it time to walk away?