Navigating challenging waters
I’ve had a great journey as a parent by finally with a child. Now being 13 1/2, many years of disparaging comments have taken their toll.
The last 2 to 3 years has been met with great hostility towards me and it is all because the other parent decided to give the child adult problems and make the child her friend. It’s sad.
To see so many years of such a wonderful relationship go so sour and all because of negative influence and disparaging comments towards me.
My faith has gotten me far in all of this, and I don’t know what the future holds.
It got so sour that upon agreeing to get the child a mobile phone, the mom decided not to uphold the agreement and set up parental controls. Instead, she does not allow the phone here and it has become an even greater dividing point.
In other words, I was made to look like the parent who would be reading the phone when in reality, the mom is managing everything.
Parental alienation is rather cruel in many ways, and I could see how it negatively affected all of the good values that I sought to teach throughout the years.
I feel much has been robbed from me, but at the same time, I know that nothing is lost. My faith tells me that nothing is lost, and that someday my daughter will be able to process through all of this and have the freedom to have a healthy relationship with me.
Much of this, I believe stemmed from jealousy and control and it has been very challenging to deal with this situation.
The last year became so challenging that I did suggest the child see a counselor however the mom was in denial that there were any concerns.
This was the outlet and the only place where all of the negative behaviors were being channeled. I would love to know the steps forward if these types of things continue. I do know that my now wife and I standing together was the most effective way to change the course of some of the escalated behaviors we were seeing.