u/BothPreference566

I’m honestly getting so burnt out with my nanny family constantly asking me to do things on my days off. It’s always “can you stop by the house really quick,” “can you run this errand,” “can you help with this one thing,” etc. and it never actually feels optional.

The part that’s really starting to bother me is that the NPs aren’t particularly kind or appreciative to begin with, and I’m already exhausted from working multiple shifts during the week. I’ve also had multiple conversations with them about being paid on time, yet somehow they still feel comfortable texting me for favors on my days off before I’ve even been paid for the previous week.

And it’s not even just regular days off. They’ll ask me to come over on holidays too. I genuinely think they assume that because I’m not originally from this area and don’t have family nearby, holidays “don’t matter” to me or I must not have plans. Meanwhile I’m sitting there like… maybe I just want one day to sleep in, rest, and not be “on call.”

I’m sick right now too and woke up to another request this morning. At this point I feel emotionally drained and honestly resentful every time I see their name pop up on my phone. I’m already planning on quitting because the boundaries feel nonexistent.

How do you all handle families who constantly ask for things off the clock/off schedule? Do you stop responding on days off? Say no every time? I feel guilty but I’m also completely over it.

NP's aren't receptive, I've tried having conversations with them. What do I do?

I know I am not in the fault, but I don't like confrontation. They should plan accordingly, especially since I have their kids more than they do so there's no excuse for them to not do their errands on the days I have the kids.

So as the title suggests, I've been in an abusive work environment for awhile now. I've been yelled (yes, yelled at) by NPs before, transitioned to being not paid on time ever, no contract (so no PTO, no sick time, etc), crazy overworked (never knowing end time), etc.

NPs are straight up terrible people. They practice permissive parenting, so NKs throw constant tantrums if they don't get what they want so NPs always say to side with them. It's to the point, I have started to get migraines just from the stress of the job itself on a day-to-day basis. NP's are super moody, one week they like me, the next week they act like I'm annoying them. Both are constant micromanagers, texts anywhere from 7am until 11pm at night about non-urgent requests/needs. Then will also send me 10+ texts during shift to make sure I did everything they texted me earlier.

I go in early, stay late, but still there's no respect or boundaries for me. If I don't want NK's coming in my car with a pen or a chocolate ice cream, well I don't get a choice! They think because they pay me that it doesn't matter what their kids destroy or treat me.

They never have their kids but will bring them to a birthday party or two a year, and act like they do it all themselves.

Both NPs are addicts. One pops pills on the regular and the other abuses other drugs that I have seen in the house.

I'm in a complete toxic, abusive environment and I need to leave.

NK's do no wrong, and if they do wrong, well there's no follow-up, no sincere apology to me, and they usually end up getting whatever toy they wanted (kid could've hit me, and still gotten a toy at the end bc he was "misunderstood").

I just want to know how to handle the situation. I'm in college and will be graduating in a month. I want to take a few weeks to myself before I find another job (that isn't nannying) but I have no idea what to say to them. If I say I'm just taking time for myself, they'll say no. I know you may say oh well they can't say that, but NPs are a different breed. They don't care.

I also very well am highly considering moving back home after graduation.

What would you say and how would you approach it? would you say it over text first, then in person or just straight to in-person?

I also know they'll ask to come to my graduation, but I absolutely do not want to see them past my last day.

I apologize this sounds so blunt and abrasive but I am so burnt out. I cry everyday and I just need to get out for my mental health. I don't recognize myself anymore.