Definitely only want one child or just in the 4 month trenches?
So I 33F and my husband 32M welcomed our first child via IVF in January this year. We tried for 6 years and I wanted this life so badly. I love my son with every ounce of my soul but this has been a lot harder than I anticipated. My husband is self employed and work has been crazy busy for him so I’ve been almost solo parenting since day 1, but he helps as best he can when he is home. We always said we wanted two children, I have siblings and so does he and I want that for my son, but I am struggling so much recently in what I assume is the dreaded 4 month sleep regression that I genuinely don’t see how I will cope through this, and the thought of doing it again with a toddler as well seems just hellish. My husband also agrees he has found it harder than he expected. My family are not close by, my husbands are but me and his mum are polar opposites so we do get on ok but having her around stresses me out more than doing this alone.
I feel I want a second child so my son won’t be alone since he will have no cousins to grow up with (none of our siblings are having children) or anything, but I just can’t justify that as a good enough reason. And I worry that with a second I won’t be able to enjoy my son and the life I dreamed of after everything I went through to get him here. I also don’t want to wait too long before having a second due to my age so there is a bit of a deadline for this decision.
Did anyone who made the decision to not have more while in the trenches of sleep regression change their mind later on? Or did you stick to it but regret it?