I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and we unexpectedly got pregnant 7 months ago.
The last time we actually tried it ended with me having a miscarriage and I was devastated. So when I learned I was pregnant this time around I was worried that it would end the same way but my boyfriend assured me that we would have a healthy baby.
He was right about that. I’m 31 weeks with a healthy and active baby boy. But ever since the start of this year my boyfriend has grown more and more distant from me and it’s taken a clear toll on me.
In February I found out he’d been watching p*rn while I was out of the house. I confronted him about it and he profusely apologized to me. I eventually forgave him and we moved on. Then in march he started making new social media accounts to follow and talk to other women. My friend had stumbled upon one of the accounts and sent it to me so I did my own digging.
2 Snapchat accounts, 1 instagram account, and 1 facebook account. I was heartbroken. I screamed and I cried for days asking him if it was a joke. He said that I was being distant and he felt like he had no other choice. I told him he could’ve talked to me about it instead of cheating and he told me he needed time away from me.
He goes to his grandparents house for 3 days. I don’t hear anything from him until he comes back. He apologized for his actions saying he regretted and he only wants to be with me blah blah blah. I, being naïve, took him back (I know dumb decision).
2 weeks ago I found out that he had been telling his friends and family he doesn’t want to be a dad after months of telling me he did. He came to every appointment, was there for both ultrasounds, posted about our son and told everyone how excited he was for his baby boy.
Ive been crying for days. I still can’t help but want to try and stay to see he’ll change but deep down I know he won’t. We are both 19 and I understand we’re young but he seemed happy and ready for our baby.
Am I stupid for wishing it’s a cruel joke? I just want to be a family. He was such a sweet guy before I just don’t want to believe it.
Can anyone tell me what I should do in this situation?
(I’m sorry if it’s hard to understand im just trying to get everything out at once)