My husband really likes his older brother. We support his older brothers family of 6 financially every month since they work at a non profit and are not doing as well as us financially. Husband takes his brother as his plus 1 to events over me or my kids. Husband always pays for meals when we go out, they never offer. Husband tries to buy his brothers kids things they may need like a new bike. When husband travels and brings back me and our kids souvenirs, he brings back things for his brothers family too. I think it’s weird. It’s like everytime he does something nice for his own family he has to do something nice for his brothers family so we don’t feel “special.” It’s one thing if brothers family did the same for us but they don’t. They are not poor. Yes, we make more money than them but shouldn’t there be a boundary?
Why is my husband like this? If I try to mention it, I get labeled as being cheap and he gets defensive.