i'm a trans man who's about to start hrt. my family of course isn't aware nor supportive. i'm not planning to come out to them ever. there's still a few years until i am fully independent and have more freedom but until then i need to rely on them a bit (though i am living separately and relatively safe, so no immediate risk for starting hrt). i could wait, but since i'm in a safer place now, even if not fully, i want to start before my body progresses too much. there's also the social aspect where my country isn't very welcoming and since i can't fully transition for a long time i have to present as the sex my id states. it's not exactly dangerous as long as you can pass as androgynous, just... not supportive either.
my question is to anyone who lives a "dual life". presenting as your assigned gender in front of family/coworkers/classmates and presenting as your real gender for the rest. is it possible? how did you do it? i imagine the hardest aspect to control is the voice. are there any trans people who went on hrt for long enough to see clear changes while still keeping up their "family mode"?