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So my MIL and my FIL have lived with us for the past 10 years. My FIL has advanced dementia and my MIL is decling rapidly as well. My husband has two sisters one who lives an hour away(I’ll call her Beverly) and one who lives two states over(I’ll call her Brenda). Well last month my FIL got really sick and we had to call an ambulance on him and it kinda looked like he wasn’t going to get much better so my
Husband told Brenda to come spend time with their parents. Well she’s been here for about a month and told me today that she’s leaving on Thursday, I asked her you are not staying til we go on our cruise? She said no that she would come back before the cruise. Then she proceeded to say she couldn’t stay that long because she needed a break????? Like what??? You have been here four weeks, my husband and I have been doing it on some level for TEN YEARS!!! His other sister comes out maybe twice a week but guess where most everything lands! On my husband and I. I’m just their DIL but I feel like I have more responsibility in their care than their own daughters. Oh yea forgot to add both his sister kids are grown, ours 15, 9, and 6……..ugh overloaded.

So perimenopause symptoms have really ramped up in the last few weeks. The hot flashes are annoying but not terrible. My fatigue is there but no worse than normal as I have fibromyalgia, pain is ramped up a little bit but not crazy. However my emotions and mental state at times are NUTS! I’ll rage over the smallest thing like someone stopping their car, when they are supposed to. Ugh it’s so frustrating. My living situation is not making things easy. I have three kids(15m, 9m, 6f) two very disabled and unable to care for themselves in-laws, my husband who only works and stresses about everything in the house though the does nothing to help, and my sister in law who is here for a month to help her parents but means I have to fight for the washing machine to be able to do MY laundry. I am so overloaded on all the noises of the house, the constant coughing from my in laws, the constant washing machine and dryer noises, my husband muttering about how stressed HE is, and of course my three kids who turn to me for everything despite their dad being right there. I heard my kids fighting tonight on top of everything else and I’ll I wanted to do was scream ‘Can everyone just shut the fuck up????!!!!!’
Somebody please put me in a quiet padded room with wine, liquor, MJ, and whatever else will just relax me and make me not want to scream from being completely overloaded!!
Oh and when my sister in law leaves next month, guess whose job it is to take care of my in laws and my kids at the same time? Yeah and my father in law can no longer control his bowel or bladder so soon I’ll be back to diaper changes and cleaning…ugh. Sorry for the length I’m just over all of it.