My (30M) girlfriend (25f) have been having intimacy issues, something to mention?
My girlfriend and I have been together for going on 8 months we have known each other for going on 2 years. Since we started dating she has had a lot of recurrent vaginal problems, (recurrent UTIs and BV). Obviously during this time it’s not advised to have intercourse and let it heal with medication. This has been an on and off thing since about September. When she is healed again we enjoy a normal love life.
Most recently in march, this happened to her again which obviously is taken a huge toll on her mentally and she is becoming very frustrated. Me and her both did testing and it’s clear that this issue isn’t coming from me and probably because she stopped taking birth control. However since this last time she has said she wants to take a long break from having intercourse until she feels completely healed which I support and understand.
The part that is frustrating to me is that she is pretty much unwilling to do anything with me (blow jobs/hand jobs I mean I’d take anything at this point lol). Only once in the past two months have we been together and kissing and I asked for oral and she gave it to me. The last few weeks she just pretty much laughs it off when I suggest it and doesn’t really seem to take me seriously that I’m asking because I’m becoming frustrated. I haven’t really said anything to her about her not really putting out because I know the last 8 months have been pretty mentally draining for her. How would you guys approach this?