Recently the person I was seeing ending things right at the peak of our connection and it has left me so confused.
For some context we were interested in each other from last July-Nov but life got in the way so distance was created. Back at the start of Feb we reconnected and things were going okay. There is definitely some push/pull from her and displaying avoidant tendencies but things were going well.
In March we decided to give "us" a go and pick up where we left off last Nov things were going great, to the point she introduced me to her sister and to her best friends. I knew she is somewhat avoidant so I was letting her set the pace to not overwhelm her.
So all in all this was going pretty well, I know for sure she said she wanted to make it official and to do that she wanted me to ask her out in person. (I was away on holiday at the time this conversation came up)
However during this while it is all going great she just ends things with me saying she is "overwhelmed and that around me she feels exposed because she doesn't open up like this normally."
I assume she was also overwhelmed in this state because even when she ended things said "you're literally my soulmate but I am not ready for anything"
We are in the same gaming server from last summer too and it got active again and it looked like she had expressed some regret about ending things between us to some of the friends in there.
there was a guy hitting on her pretty hard (very hard flirting/sexual advances) who was reassuring her she made the right choice. Then within 9 days of talking they are now an official couple, and I am just feeling so lost and confused. Where is the standard of wanting to be asked out in person? (he lives half way around the world). She is openly expressing her love for him and posting his pics on her stories.
when I questioned her on what was going on she responded with "there will never be anything real between me and him" and "I am just there for him and I'll see if I can really love someone" Her actions vs words do not line up at all
Due to all this she was trying to keep a line open to me. just a streak going, but I told her I need to step back from her.
I just feel like I meant nothing and I am replaceable. It is not like we were drifting apart the relationship was actively growing then suddenly she jumped.
I just don't understand how she can be "all in" with this new person and trying to work through her avoidance with him