So my wife has been actively in a online poly relationship for awhile now, with a person living quite for away. I had been curious, and since my wife is bi I suggested we find another person to join us sometime. She was open especially since she hadn't been with a woman yet. But nothing came from it for a while.
This week, she told me the person she's in a online couple with and his wife were coming to town and wanted to see us. She wanted to know my boundaries because I'd never really explored the poly aspect, I'd just been curious. I said I'd be open to it I just had hoped we were going to have time with another female like we'd talked about. She said she was open to things with her partners wife, as she was bi and they were close, but the hard thing with just finding another woman is she wanted it to be someone she was comfortable with.
So this weekend came, we went out with them to eat and went back to their hotel. Things weren't really progressing as fast as my wife wanted, her other partner didn't seem too keen to engage, so I kinda nudged things along by suggesting things like my wife and his wife kissing, etc.
Without going too far into the details it kind of turned into a three way with me my wife and his wife. I had to literally tell him to kiss my wife, which was strange to me, as they were already in a dynamic and I was the one that was new to this. But anyway he just kinda kissed her and stood by her.
After everything was done I needed to go home and sleep for work. My wife stayed to get alone time with himel as I assume he just wasn't too keen on fully joining with me there.
I.. I really enjoyed myself. I'm surprised at this because I wasn't doing too well early on in their dynamic. I was kind of jealous, and I think now I was afraid I wasn't enough for my wife and that she wouldn't stay with me if she was someone else. But, I came to terms with this being more of an experience for us to share. Since I opened up to the possibility and actively joined instead of staying away from it she has been very loving and I think more affectionate than I've seen her be to me in years.
The thing is, I want that again. Honestly It was a bit awkward for the fourth person in the room to just kind of be standing there, but I would like to bring up to my wife a possible person joining us again. But we don't know anyone into that here, and her partner and wife live way out of state. Plus her wanting them to be someone she's comfortable with already, I don't know where to begin. Any help/ suggestions?