u/BraveReserve

For background, I am a lesbian, currently married to another lesbian, but my ex-husband was a transman. I like to think of myself as very accepting and inclusive, and always want to be a safe place for people.

We had a contractor in today that did great work. She was very kind and communicative and she taught me a ton. She had a male apprentice with her so collectively I would just says “you guys are doing often”. Yes, I know I should be better with my language in general; it’s a work in progress.

Anyway after they left my wife commented about how we’ve had good luck getting LGBT contractors lately (which is true, and I love it). But I was confused - what LGBT contractors did we have today? My wife points out that the contractor was a transwoman. And it turns out she was.

So I feel HORRIBLE that I kept just saying “guys” so casually the whole time not even realizing and am so worried that she thought that I was purposely misgendering her.

I immediately went online to give them a good review to the business and specifically mentioned her with she/her pronouns in hopes that she will see it and realize I wasn’t trying to be an asshole, just ignorant. Cry.

If you’ve been in this type of situation, did you assume that the person was just using ‘guys’ in a gender-neutral way, or did I probably offend her? She didn’t outwardly appear offended but I feel so guilty now.

Just moved into a new house. Everything was fine for walkthrough, inspection, and the first two nights. Then suddenly one of the switches, when turned on, all three lights on that switch start flickering rhythmically. Then the next day, a different switch, the two lights attached to that one have begun doing the same. Both switches are on different circuits so not circuit related. I did pull open the lights and switches to check for loose connections, but the issue persists. Proper power at the lights, not too many lights on a circuit, no overheating and the installation is to code. Not on dimmer switches.

Any other ideas?