u/BreadPast3798

Burnout (And the Ghost of Safe Places)

I don’t know if it’s just life hitting me all at once or if I’m just hitting a wall, but gikapoy na gyud ko.

Lately, the urge to just drop everything, absent sa work/school, and just stare at the ceiling or walk aimlessly is so strong. I’ve been so restless. Last weekend, I found myself drinking alone again (my usual routine) pero lahi man ang tama karon. It’s like no matter how much I try to distract myself, there’s this lingering longing that just won't leave.

Does it ever really go away? Or do we just get used to the weight of it?

I found myself thinking about my last ex. Not even in a "I want him back" toxic way, but more of a "I miss who I was when I was with him" way.

That kind of love where I finally felt at peace. Safe. Where I could just be 100% myself and do my thing because I knew, without a doubt, naa koy kapaingnan ug naay nagpaluyo nako.

It’s hard to move forward when you keep wondering if you’ll ever feel that kind of safety again. Is that a once-in-a-lifetime thing? Or am I just stuck in a loop of missing a feeling that doesn't exist anymore?

Ambót ba. To anyone else just "walking to clear their mind" right now... I hope we find that peace again. Not necessarily in another person, but maybe in ourselves.
Kapoy lang gyud usahay.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 4 days ago

Life is too short, and tomorrow is never guaranteed.

Grabe, life is really too short gyud diay noh? It’s one of those things we know in our heads, but it doesn’t really sink in until something hits close to home. Like, tomorrow is never a guarantee that we’ll still wake up.

Just this morning, our supervisor asked us if we knew this specific agent, and we confirmed nga yes, kaila mi. Then the news came: he passed away suddenly. Ang sakit lang huna-hunaon kay bago pa gyud tawn nakapasar sa Board Exam tung bataa. Active pa kaayo sa office, nakig-chismisan pa namo recently, and then... wala na.

Moments like this always teach me to treasure and cherish life. If you love someone, tell them. If you want to do something, do it now. Do it scared. Do it alone. Do it even if you're hesitant because tomorrow is a luxury we often take for granted, but it’s never promised.

Stay safe and take care of yourselves, everyone. Hug your loved ones a little tighter today.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 6 days ago

Table for one, drinks for... well, also one.

Kanang, share lang nako ha, but why is it that some people find it so weird if I tell them I go out and dine or drink alone labi na kay babae ko? Lol.

Mura ba’g automatic ilang assumption nga brokenhearted, gi-ghost, o miserable ko. Look, it’s actually so fun and therapeutic kaya! No need to adjust to anyone’s schedule, no compromise on what to eat, and just pure, unadulterated peace of mind.

Life’s too short to limit yourself and wait for other people just to enjoy good food and drinks. It’s a lifestyle choice, not a sad story.

Just to add, di kaayo nagapa hubog gyud and naga grab nako pauli aron safe gyud.

Sa nag suggest nga mag huck, thank youuu! Lingaw gyud diay siya bsan alone 😂 suggest na pud daw mog lain bi kay mao akong next adtoan.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 6 days ago

wish list: patas-on ang pasensya and pagsabot

Kanang di ko gusto mag entertain anything nga negative or maka badtrip ba pero gina testingan man gyud sa akoang mga workmates akoang pasensya always oy 😩

Mao ning ga sayo ko usahay buhat sa akong tasks ba nga wala pa sila sa office kay makasuya nga malangay ko tungod rapud sa ilaha like imbes gi-hire kay kuyaw ug judgment and no need na i-supervise unta pero makalabad sa ulo kay mas petiks pa nako. Okay ra gyud mag petiks basta di mag cramming sa workload and di ko madamay kay labad sa ulo maguba ang data/reports tungod sa ka complacent ra nila.

Naa pud di mang join ug meeting, mao gyud baya ning mga sakit sa ulo ay. Bsan naka work off ka, mu-pm gyud kay lagi unsure or kaya daghan reklamo. Hays

Di ko gusto masuko or what pero let me just vent this out kay galabad akong ulo sa kasuya. Di ko gusto mubalik yosi sad kay hagbay nako niundang anang bisyoha pero murag maka tempt na nuon. Sge lang, dayoff na btaw ugma, iinom ko na lang ning ka stress pste oy.

Unsanamaneeeee 😩

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u/BreadPast3798 — 7 days ago

Side quests

Skl guys mga nahibal-an nako na side quests this month, basin diay interested mo. Hehe

• If want mo mag tingin lang sa mga artworks, naay event ang DAFI sa La Herencia. May 13-16 ang duration sa ganap, free admission man daw as per the video nga nakita nako. (Naa daw always ganap ang La Herencia, just need to check their page.)

• If bookworm ka, naay meetup ang silentbookclub this coming May 17. Visit na lang ilahang IG page for more deets.

• If gusto pud mog painting sesh, try checking Feral Studios or Isla Eskinita’s page. Naa silay ganap every month. Sa karon ilang sched kay this coming May 23. May bayad ₱800, including na materials ana nga gamiton plus coffee. (Naa pud always ganap sa Feral Studios, check their FB and IG page lang.)

• If bet nimo good beer and good music, naa pud ganap sa Suazo this May 23. Naay mga banda manugtog ana, entrance fee ₱150.

• If gusto pud kag beer and good conversation, why not with me? Hahahaha jk! Pero bitaw suggest mog other places asa nindot mag hangout, dine or inom.

Kana lang so far ang nasagap sa akoang radar nga side quests. If naa pa moy nahibal-an, please feel free to comment para happy tang tanan.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 8 days ago

digital decluttering

I realized recently nga ang "social" part sa social media usahay makahurot sa atong energy. I decided to delete my other account where I used to chat with a lot of people. It was okay for a while I even met a person or two pero naabot ko sa point nga kapoy na gyud siya.

I’m keeping this account strictly for my hobbies or research purposes for certain things na lang. From now on, I’m embracing the lurker life. No more pressure to reply or keep the conversation going. Just here to enjoy what I like.

Here’s to better days and focusing on the things that actually make us happy.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 8 days ago

Sweet spot in life

There’s really a different kind of bliss and solace in doing things alone.

To be honest, ever since I started going out solo, whether it’s dining out or just grabbing a drink—my life has felt so much happier. It’s definitely cooler than before. I’ve tried so many new restos, met different people, and learned things I wouldn't have otherwise. Hay, lami gyud kaayo ang kinabuhi.

At this stage, whenever people ask why I’m still single at 28, I honestly just think, 'For what?' Lol. Tbh, I still crave for some lambing sometimes, but it eventually passes. Getting into a relationship is nice, sure, but I just don't want to spend my energy on the wrong person again. Plus, I’m genuinely having the best time being single.

Just sharing this because I’m happy and grateful. If I stayed in my comfort zone, I wouldn't be doing any of this. Naa gyud diay rainbow after the rain.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 12 days ago

Nerdy guy nga tito HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Nangape ra man unta ko kadali before mag-start ang shift, looking for a caffeine kick para makamata akong diwa. Pero imbes nga kape ang makapamata nako, ang lalaki man hinuon sa pikas table ang nakakuha sa akong atensyon.

Dili siya ang typical "gym rat" type, pero grabe... he’s so fcking hot in his own way. Simpleng shirt, naka-salamin, and totally focused sa iyang laptop. You can tell he’s in the zone. Naa syay game gina play yata, lol.

Lahi ra gyud ning lalaki nga naay hobbies or kanang knowledgeable kaayo sa iyang field, noh? Kanang makit-an nimo siya nga seryoso kaayo, pero once mag-talk na gani siya bahin sa iyang interests, makita nimo ang spark sa iyang mga mata. That kind of passion is so attractive.

Kanang maminaw lang ka niya mag-discuss bahin sa tech, history, or even complex theories, and you find yourself nodding not because you understand everything, but because his voice and intelligence are just... intoxicating.

Intelligence is definitely the new sexy. Kanang tito moves nga calm, collected, but you know deep down he has that dominant streak when the doors are closed.

Sige na baby, share na nako na imong pagka-nerdy. Tell me everything you know, walk me through your process, and let me see that brain work... so I can give you a different kind of distraction later. Basin diay, in the middle of your explanation, you’d want to show me how those hands work and choke me out instead. 🥵🔥

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u/BreadPast3798 — 16 days ago

I stepped out to meet a friend today and came home feeling a deep sense of peace. It’s funny how a small gesture like being shared a meal—can make you feel so seen.

My circle might be small, but the quality is top-tier gyud. It’s humbling to think that in this massive universe, I somehow crossed paths with exactly the right people. Even with work deadlines piling up and life feeling a bit heavy lately, today was a reminder that there’s still so much to be grateful for.

It’s just me realizing that despite the chaos, I’m lucky to be here. Universe, thank you for the gift of life and for friends who make it worth living.

Memento vivere.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 18 days ago
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Hello guys! Need your help/reco about place pwede maka chill alone ba? Kainomon kaayo ko after an exhausting week 😩😆

Kanang naa mo ma suggest na bar diraa or even cafe? Gusto rako mag me time but also kanang safe ko as babae. Kana pud unta di layo sa north please huhu kapoyan nakos byahe man gud.

Thanks in advance!

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u/BreadPast3798 — 20 days ago

“Though we’re the same person, unfortunately

We’re on our own trajectories.”

I’ve been looping this song all night, and man, it hits differently when you’ve had a healthy breakup.

Sometimes I catch myself asking, “Why don’t I just go back to them?” But deep down, I know I can’t. The truth is, we aren’t the same people we were when we started. We’ve grown, but we grew in opposite directions.

There’s this weird misconception that you only struggle to move on if the relationship was toxic. But I think healthy breakups actually linger longer. There’s no anger to fuel your "moving on" phase. No resentment to make you want to block them. Instead, you’re just left with the quiet, heavy realization that for once in your life, you actually felt safe.

It wasn't just about the romance; it was the fact that I finally felt okay being vulnerable. I felt okay just being me.

I’m not "stuck" in the past, and I wouldn’t even say I haven't moved on. It’s just the weight of the thought: I actually experienced that kind of love. It’s a mix of being incredibly grateful that it happened and completely heartbroken that it’s over.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 21 days ago

May I know asa inyong spot like cafe or ga drink? Gisum-olan nako slight na balik balik ang place ginaadtoan nako so just looking for suggestions or reco ug place where it’s nice to have a coffee or drink, kanang dili rpud kaayo layo please.

Thank youuuu!

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u/BreadPast3798 — 21 days ago

Naa pa ba tung shop nga gabaligya ug secondhand books sa isa ka mall sa buhangin? Not sure asa nga mall if citygate ba or what, but would like to check if sakto ba akong na remember nga naa gyud tung books per kilo or kadtong naa ra sa ilustre ang ga exist?

Thank you.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 22 days ago

Moabot gyud ang panahon sa atong kinabuhi nga bisan kapila pa ta makipag-hookup o makig-meet og lain-laing tawo, mangita ra gihapon ta og genuine connection.

Lahi ra gyud diay ang tinuod nga connection kaysa sa casual lang. No one can deny that sex is good, but nothing beats the feeling of having that one person you can share your whole life with kanang imong kapahungawan sa tanan.

Naabot na gyud ko sa point nga kapoy na sige’g date. Maybe it’s because I’m approaching my thirties, but it’s also because it’s deeply draining to meet people when you know it’s going nowhere. Kapoy na sige’g sugod sa uno.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 24 days ago

Kanang kapoy na kaayo sa work ba, kalami na lang gyud maglangi gani. Kanang mouli sa balay, nay muatiman nimo lile lutoan kag food tapos nay massage 😩

Kalangion nsad oy giatay. Back to work na lang sa gyud ta ani.

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u/BreadPast3798 — 25 days ago