Hello. I’ve been in three long-term relationships before, and I got so used to being called “girlfriend.”
Now, the person I’m with calls me “partner” — like, “I’m your partner” or “We’re partners.”
Honestly, I don’t really know how to feel about it yet. I’m not used to hearing that term, but at the same time, I want to understand where he’s coming from and what it means to him.
Whats your POV on this guys?
Not in the dramatic way people often assume; just in the quiet, exhausting way where everything starts to feel heavy, emotionally distant, and difficult to carry.
I still show up. I still work. I still smile when I need to. But internally, something feels missing. And I think one of the saddest realizations is noticing that the version of yourself who used to feel excited, hopeful, and emotionally alive has slowly faded into survival mode.
ako lang bah or i hate the idea nga im "pure" compare to my partner-
like its getting harder for me to date or find someone cause im affected by how they have soo much experiences with other people while I have none or none compare to theirs.
it bothers me that I barely had any physical contact while they had wildest porn quality experiences with several women and even if someone will say find someone like you, it makes me think MERON BAH? im reading reddit,hearing my friends and diving in the internet and social media and talking to guys i trust to ask and it feels isolating, parang ang babata ko, im sooo faraway and i feel jealous or possessive when i discover or even get a hint that someone im intrested in has done everything to be done.
im also too scared to do my own share of experiences cause I once tried too but later realised i can't find a good match cause guys have soo much standards and i can't reach it and also im scared bc of heightened cases of HIV and fear of pregnancy.
After ilang months, makahinga na talaga ako😂 Ngayon ko lang na feel ang pagod sa lahat ng ginawa ko Huhuhuhu I cried today because it's finally over😂 After months of hardwork i deserve this long ass break😂 yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyy!
Ang question ko kay wtf am I going to do now?🫠😂
Gikapoy naman ko uy. As in kapoy na kaayo physically, emotionally, spiritually etc. feel nako pas-an nako tibook kalibutan ug ang mga pang-adlaw2 na kailangan nko buhaton. Feel nako walay mutabang nako or makatabang nako :(
For context: full time working mom ko, graveyard shift akong duty. Tapos sa buntag ako pa mubantay sakong anak. Ako galuto, manglimpyo, manglaba (kay akong partner gahi kaayo palihokon, maka irita sge lang unya na unya na maka bwsit! So ako nalay lihok kung e confront bitaw naay perme rebat - example sa mga hugason dili daw na mudagan ang mga hugaw na plato) I’d get 2-3 hrs of sleep on a daily basis, everyday ga labad akong ulo like labad jud kaayo nga mura nag mabuak! Pagmata pajud nako the whole house is a fucking mess! Maka boang na jud!!!!! Hugaw pa ang balay naa pajud akong ulo nga perme ga labad, every fckin day ga labad!!!!!
I’ve been weirdly at peace lately. Like… gym before sunrise, running after work, drinking more water than alcohol, sleeping early-ish, avoiding situationships. Character development era kuno.
And honestly? It feels good. Quiet. Healthy. Stable.
But dear God… nobody warned me that being physically active would make me this horny. 😭
Like excuse me??? I started running to heal, not to suddenly miss post-sex conversations with some random guy na mas dako pa ang emotional baggage kaysa notch niya… ayy. I miss the intimacy after sex almost more than the sex itself. Yung hihiga lang kayo after tapos biglang magiging philosophers and comedians while naka-aircon at emotionally unavailable.
And before anyone says “just hook up,” TRUST ME, I know how easy it is. Especially as a woman here on Reddit. Isang post mo lang, parang job hiring agad inbox mo. 😭 But also… the diseases nowadays are terrifying. Every week may bago akong kinakatakutan. At this point, my health anxiety is stronger than my libido… slightly.
So now I’m genuinely considering buying a dildo. Pero shet. Iba pa rin talaga pag may tao. HAHAHAHA.
Anyway, if anyone else here is in their “healing but still extremely human” era… pakigalaw ang baso. 🤣
Over the weekend.. nakausap ko mom and aunts ng aking bf.. they were asking me if i’m ready for a salangguni (engagement) any time this year.. almost one year napod me in a relationship sa akong bf na muslim sad (i knooow bawal uyab2 sa muslim supposedly huhu) .. the wedding doesn’t have to be in 3 months, it can be in the next 2 years or until i finish medschool.. they just want us locked in a committed relationship with both parents consenting us to be together (they already gave us permission to be with each other but they want in an official? Way)
Is it too soon?? Orrr am i ready to take it to the next levelll???? As someone with daddy issues, can i handle it?? Meee being commited to a marriage prospect? I mean i am committed sa uyab ko man din.. but to this next chapter??? I? Who grew up in a weird family dynamic where i really don’t have an ideal husband coz my dad wasn’t one? Am i capable of making a family where the children feel safe and loved to the point that they don’t have to question every kindness and affection that comes their way?
I’m a single mother. My kids are Senior High and College. Naa ko ginapa school na duha ka pamangkin pud both in College. Tuition palang nila tanan this coming June, kulang na kaayo akoang sweldo. I have mortgage. Tapos bills and groceries pa. May na lang fully paid na akoang car. Dili jud enough ang 200k. Ngano maniiii. Sino same scenario jan sakin? Maskin mag coffee lang ko somewhere para mag destress kay ma konsensiya pako kay nag gasto gasto ko. Kafaet sa life! Murag nabuhi na lang ko sig panarbaho. HAHAHAHAHAHA! Hooligan!!!
Hiii. Want to meet new people to hang out with. Roadtrips, etc. Seriously around 35-45 yrs old onlyyy. Sorry to younger people. I have a car or if you have we can go around strolling. Thank youuu.💕🥰
I'm gonna use taglish in this post. Bisaya is not my first language, and while I have an adequate command of it, comfort-wise, and para mas marelay ko yung gusto ko sabihin, mag taglish na lang ako.
I was born, raised, and currently living in another city. I spent several years in davao city when I was doing post-grad. The past nights, nostalgia was kicking in hard. I spent my 10PMs visiting old GCs of my class sections. Simple lang buhay ko nun, studies lang inaatupag.
Every now and then, nakakapunta pa rin ako ng davao. Andami na nag bago. I know the place but it feels strange to me. And I always look forward to my davao trips. Minsan, binabalikan ko yung mga lugar na pinupuntahan ko noon, if they still exist. Yung iba kasi wala na talaga.
I miss my school. I miss my friends. While I don't miss my boyfriend at the time (now ex), kasama sa trip down the memory lane ko yung memories namin since taga davao sya and dun kami nagkakilala (classmates).
Kaya I am so looking forward to my davao trip next month! I will meet my friends, and say goodbye to some. Also planning to take a peek at the pickleball scene there.
I need a place to stay temporarily. I want to get away muna from the current place I am living in. :( I am choosing myself this time. :(
Makafrustrate kaayo magpuyo dri na bansa, hahahaha. I was getting my requirements for my board exam and passport, but I wasn’t able to get them because baga kaayo ug ink akong first name, so medyo blurry siya. Though klaro siya, they still said it needs to undergo clerical correction.
It takes about 4 months to 1 year para maayos, and you also need to pay thousands. It really takes time and effort for a single mistake you’re not even responsible for.
Hays. Instead of using the money for necessary things like food and other essentials, kinahanglan pa nimo ibayad for clerical correction fees. Then magbayad pa for transportation just to secure requirements. Daghan ka ma-miss out na opportunities kay ma-delay ka. Sayang.
Lord, pls ayaw na ko na here. 🥀💔
The one time I decided to go out, niulan. 🤣 Nagcut off sa order, closed ang establishment, and so many signs to just stay at home. Imbes mag destress, na stress pa samot 🤣
Mas taas pa akong gidrive kesa sa akong lingaw. Matulog na lang ko. 😆
Here we go again. kabalo ka anang you want to meet other person and satisfy your needs lang gud as a person like mga hook up ganun but since lately i could see jud na im getting chubbier again mas na lessen akong confidence jud ay. I know guys like slim type lang jud tas kami mga chubby wajud kamot kamot nalng
Today, I joined on pickleball open play outside my regulay play schedule. I have no expectations. Nag try lang naman ako eh, but then I got paired with one particular girl. Tall, slim and pretty. Naka suot sya ng College of Medicine. And damn. ako yung na ssmash sa bawat play hahahahahaha. Madammmmmm kung nandito kaaaaa. galawin mo baso. pickle my ballsssss HAHAHAHAHHAHA
Is it just me or are there people like me na gusto makig meet ug new people pero has no plans to do anything nsfw. Talk lang bout like, kauban mag try ug new things like hike or boxing, igat igat gamay (kung bet syempre) pero knows na joke lang. Does it make sense ba?
Hello, I just wanted to share something.
30 M single
A regular government employee. Feels like im living for the sake of being alive. I dont find any geniune feelings of joy in any events, occasions, nor simple laughable scenarios. I simply produce proper expressions for a moment like a regular being but never genuinely feel like it inside whether at work or here.
Only have couple of weeks or less to spend here in hometown every 4 to 6 mons, and 90% of that time I only spend it staying at home chilling.
Don't have any close friend or anyone to hangout to other than my family. I was pressured by them, saying I should look for partner soon. Heck, i don't even know how or where to even start that quest. Perhaps, its time to get out of my comfort zone.
Thats all for now, ill update this post if anything happens. Thank you for reading cupcake.
^(Also, any recommendations on where to start are appreciated btw.)
Ever since I started going to the gym, my urges soared sky high. Being single, I am always tempted to look for someone to have a quick relief. But the universe has its ways of saving me because I always come across some post about STD/STI whether here on Reddit or some other sites, mawad-an nako gana. Ang ending, i’ll do it on my own and a relief afterwards that I did not give in to my urges. Although I do miss a hot makeout session with another person. 😜
Can anyone give me some insight on this? I genuinely can’t grasp where exactly I went wrong.
My best friend asked me for a favor—if I could watch over her younger siblings for a day because their family isn’t from here and they don’t really have relatives nearby to help. I know her family well and her siblings know me too, so it wasn’t like I was watching strangers.
She offered to pay me, but honestly I would’ve still done it even without the money because she’s my best friend and she needed help for an important event.
When I brought it up to my parents, I wasn’t even asking for permission but since I'm living under their roof ofc I'll ask btw I'm working na and living with them for the convenience of it. So I was simply informing them that I’d be helping out and spending time with my best friend too.
But they reacted really negatively, like I was degrading myself or being treated like a maid/helper. They kept saying things like:
«“Ginagawa kang katulong.”
“Yes ka lang nang yes.”
“Wag ka pumayag sa ganyan next time.”»
And I’m honestly confused because… why wouldn’t I help?
All I had to do was watch the kids but they're self-sufficient naman, make sure they ate, entertain them a bit, and that was it. I didn’t feel disrespected or taken advantage of at all. To me, it just felt like helping a friend who was in a difficult situation.
Their main concern was also “what if something happens to the kids?” and that I’d be responsible. Which okay, I understand that part. But they seemed more upset about the fact that I even agreed to do the favor in the first place, like it lowered my worth somehow. As if they didn't have friends who asked them for a favor ever.
That’s the part I can’t understand.
Do some people really see helping friends with things like this as degrading? Because to me, this just felt like basic friendship and being there for someone.