u/Vast-Spray8451

Can anyone give me some insight on this? I genuinely can’t grasp where exactly I went wrong.

My best friend asked me for a favor—if I could watch over her younger siblings for a day because their family isn’t from here and they don’t really have relatives nearby to help. I know her family well and her siblings know me too, so it wasn’t like I was watching strangers.

She offered to pay me, but honestly I would’ve still done it even without the money because she’s my best friend and she needed help for an important event.

When I brought it up to my parents, I wasn’t even asking for permission but since I'm living under their roof ofc I'll ask btw I'm working na and living with them for the convenience of it. So I was simply informing them that I’d be helping out and spending time with my best friend too.

But they reacted really negatively, like I was degrading myself or being treated like a maid/helper. They kept saying things like:

«“Ginagawa kang katulong.”

“Yes ka lang nang yes.”

“Wag ka pumayag sa ganyan next time.”»

And I’m honestly confused because… why wouldn’t I help?

All I had to do was watch the kids but they're self-sufficient naman, make sure they ate, entertain them a bit, and that was it. I didn’t feel disrespected or taken advantage of at all. To me, it just felt like helping a friend who was in a difficult situation.

Their main concern was also “what if something happens to the kids?” and that I’d be responsible. Which okay, I understand that part. But they seemed more upset about the fact that I even agreed to do the favor in the first place, like it lowered my worth somehow. As if they didn't have friends who asked them for a favor ever.

That’s the part I can’t understand.

Do some people really see helping friends with things like this as degrading? Because to me, this just felt like basic friendship and being there for someone.

Co-workers saw my portfolio and now I’m lowkey stressed 🥲

Our COO has been praising me a lot since I've started, which I’m genuinely thankful for because she believed in me, hired me and saw potential in me even though iba yung inapplyan kong position sa company. She keeps saying that’s why she hired me, that she knows I can contribute more and wants to hone my skills. And honestly, I really appreciate that naman😭

Pero now some coworkers are starting to question it or put expectations on me, even the pressure and it’s making me anxious.

“Ah kaya niya yan, nasa CV mo yan diba?”

“Magaling pala to.”

“Sunod siguro nito ibang position na.”

"Pakita nga nung job interview video mo"

And I’m just there like 😭 bro please, I’m literally just trying to work and learn from it at the same time.

Yes, marami akong skills na nilagay sa CV ko because… job seeker ako 😭 of course ilalagay ko yung alam ko, nagamit ko na apps, experiences, and what I can do para ma-hire. Curious lang talaga akong tao kaya ang dami kong natry over time. But I never claimed to be AMAZING at everything.

I feel like people expects na nuon that I’m this super skilled person when in reality, I just know enough across different things because I’ve been a working student for years and naging in-and-out sa iba’t ibang roles and industries. Long-term naman mostly, but still 😭

The hardest part of being “mediocre but capable” is people expecting expert-level output. Not that I'm downgrading my experience or my work but hindi siya WOW naman din.

Now I’m starting to regret talaga, sana di nalang ako nagpadala sa pressure to show it.

Ngano mas mingawon man ta sa mga temporary na tao noh?

Like short ra kaayo ang time, pero sila pa gyud ang maka-bilin ug impact.

I’m really glad naka-meet ko ug new and nice people, no regrets gyud. Pero weird lang kay murag naa pa untay more bitaw, like more moments, more things I wanted to do, more time unta. Karon kay mularga naman sadly.

Mingawon pud gyud ko niya, and whatever we had. No regrets din yun.

Ambot oy, life be like that lang gyud siguro, temporary ra ang uban, pero grabe ug epekto.

Pero bitaw, thank you for everything. I’ll miss you.

Had the biggest crush on someone, like day 1 pa lang I've been craving to kiss that mf

We hung out a few times, okay naman, vibes were there… pero you know that gurlie instinct? Yung feeling na kahit okay kayo, alam mo deep down na they don’t like you that much.

Ayun na nga. No big fight, no dramatic ending, just slowly faded into no contact.

Ang funny lang how you can want someone so bad, tapos your intuition is already telling you it’s not gonna go anywhere.