u/BreadfruitLazy5675

My soulmate was killed 30 years ago and I haven't been able to move on. I live my life the best I could but the grief is still as fresh. I believe that it is because I feel responsible for his passing. I did not kill him. But I could have done a way more to prevent it. For starters I could have believed that the threats he received were real. I could have listened more. I could have held him tight and never let him go, instead of having a disagreement that morning and letting, not - making him go. Had I known I would not see him alive again...Why does it feel it was me who pressed the trigger?

Could any of you share how you cope with the guilt part of your grief ?