Am I wrong for wanting to switch policy partners after 2 years? Need advice
TL;DR: I've been carrying most of my policy partnership's prep for 2 years, but my partner expects me to tell her what I'm working on, when I'm on it, and what she should do. I went to debate camp, worked with a different partner who worked by herself, and realized how much better that works for me. I also chose someone else as Policy captain because I don't think my current partner is ready to lead, and she's very upset about both decisions. Am I wrong for wanting to leave the partnership?
I'm a junior in high school and have been partnered with the same person for the past 2 years. We're also family friends, which makes this harder.
The biggest issue is that I feel like I've been doing the majority of our work. I make our files, do most of the research, flow, write most of the CX questions and rebuttals, and have heavily helped with her speeches. Our season prep edit history last year is really just me. I've always shared the documents with her, and freshman year I would tell her whenever I was working on the case. By sophomore year, I assumed that after two years she would take more initiative herself, especially when tournaments were coming up. She now thinks I'm wrong for not telling her every time I worked on something or telling her what to do.
Then I went to debate camp this summer and partnered with someone else (my partner couldn't come). They independently worked on the prep without me having to ask, wrote their own strong speeches, understood the material, and I didn't have to manage them. We worked really well together and did well, and it made me realize how much better I function with a partner who contributes independently.
There's also a captain issue. I helped choose leadership for this event and chose someone else over my current partner. The new captain went to debate camp with me and has already shown a lot of initiative. My partner is angry because she has "more years of experience" than the person I chose (she doesn't because we basically lost every round we competed in..) My concern is that I've also seen her struggle with understanding the material and answering novice questions accurately, and I don't think she's currently ready to teach the class. The other people who went to camp also agreed that we came back with a lot of new material that would be difficult for me to teach to everyone alone.
She's now saying I act like I'm a "hotshot" and think I'm better than her. I don't think that's my intention.. I usually explained things because she genuinely didn't understand them, and I knew the material better because I was doing most of the research.
At this point, I don't want to be partners anymore. I feel guilty because she's a family friend and she's already very upset, but after seeing how well I worked with someone else, I don't want to stay in a partnership that I don't think is working.
Am I being unreasonable? Should I switch partners? And was I wrong to choose someone else as captain based on initiative/understanding rather than just experience?