I (18M) haven't talked to an ex(18F) in three months since our breakup, can we continue to be friends?
So, I have known someone for five years now. We lived right nextdoor. I had always had conflicting feelings towards her. There were times when I knew she liked me, and I wasn't sure how to feel, but whenever she lost interest it would drive me crazy. During this time in my life I had many issues that I don't want to discuss here, but I definetely was not ready for a relationship, which might be why I never pursued her. Anyway, I left for college and we remained good friends. Honestly, I never forgot about her. I didn't necesserily felt attached to her, but she always remained in the back of my mind. Thus we started hanging out/talking again over the winter break. I decided I had to tell her at some point and asked her out. I didn't expect her to say yes, since that would mean a long distance relationship, but she did and we went out. It was great at first, even after I left for college, but fairly suddenly she turned cold and we broke up. The relationship only lasted around 1.5 months, but it was our first "official" relationship for the both of us. At first I decided not to reach out first, since I was always the one reaching out and wanted to focus on my work/self for some time and wait for her to message me, but she never did. Now it has been three months and we haven't talked. I saw her once, since we live right next to eachother, and both of our families are also close friends, but we didn't talk much more then hi, how are you. Now I don't know if us being friends is possible again. Our relationship was very brief, and we didn't do much more then holding hands since I left soon, which is why I don't think it rules out our friendship. It's just that she hasn't been consideret towards me, and I don't want to seem desperate. I also don't know if she cares about me as a friend, I feel like I wouldn't be the one reaching out if she did. She hasn't made any effort. Anyway, would you recommend reaching out in my situation based on your experience? I don't have a lot of people to talk to about this, so I don't know what to do.