Anxious about becoming official
I just recently met a guy 3 weeks ago and things have been going great. We get along really well, have the same interests, good family, everything is so easy. He recently asked me if I would like to be exclusive and I told him that I wanted to wait just a little longer to get to know him better. But honestly this really worried me because it made me realize “oh sh*t, I’m going to have to stop talking to other guys,” and I really don’t know if I want to do that. I’ve been single for 4 years and I think that’s why I’m so anxious because I’m comfortable doing what I want now. I’m in my late 20s and I do want to get married eventually, and I’ve been wanting to find a guy like him for so long. I have slight feelings for other guys that I’ve been talking to for longer than I’ve known him. But I really don’t want to be stupid and fumble this good guy just because I want to continue flirting with other ones. I want to be in a relationship with someone but I’m afraid that I just like being in a cycle of chase/challenge with emotionally unavailable people and I don’t know how to break that cycle. I’m afraid that I’m too immature for commitment and the days where I reassure myself with “you’ll be ready one day, you’re young, just do what you want” are running out if building a committed relationship and having children are things that I’ve always wanted. Has anyone else struggled with this before? Getting into a new relationship is always viewed as so happy and everything but sometimes it really sucks knowing that suddenly you won’t be able to talk to situationships anymore that you’ve gotten really close with. Sometimes it feels like a big sacrifice that you feel that you should be mature enough to take, and embarrassed for being so anxious about it because you are so comfortable with the “what ifs” and the potential of what you may or may not have that has already been existing with other people.