u/Broad-Lengthiness719

I tandem nurse my 3yo & 1yo. I want to stop nursing my 3yo. I try to set up boundaries around the nursing for some weeks now and it leads to such intense meltdowns. I feel like nursing him is hurting our bond more than it nourishes it. I don't know where to start, and I don't want to wean my 1 year old. Any advice would be welcome. Feeling very emotional around it.