r/NurseAllTheBabies

Has anyone experienced breastfeeding toddler while being pregnant? OBGYN recommends weaning to once a day only but I know my little one is not ready for that. Also any weaning tips please and thank you!!!

Hey everyone! I was feeling extremely nauseous and had a terrible headache the other day and had some strange spotting which made me pretty suspicious. I took a pregnancy test and sure enough I’m pregnant. Wasn’t exactly planned, I’m not upset, but I’m needing some encouragement on breast-feeding. A lot of things I’m reading say I’m going to lose my supply and that just breaks my heart. I have been exclusively breast-feeding without an issue and my baby refuses to take bottles. I will be exactly 6 months pregnant when my son turns one. How far do you guys think I’ll get? Any advice?

When I was pregnant and diagnosed (or my son was diagnosed with? Never quite sure who has the diagnosis😂) IUGR, I was shocked at how few resources there were for something affecting ~10% of the population. I wanted to offer a community for parents and parents-to-be to help their small but mighty children thrive! As my healthy (but still tiny) SIUGR son is growing, so is my curiosity for how this issue in his past will affect him in the future.

I think I (sadly) might know the answer, but just putting these questions out there...

Currently nursing our 10 month old about 2x during the day (once after work, and again before bed), and he wakes up to nurse now about 1-2 times per night... Occasionally, my 3.5 yr old will latch on for like 10 seconds while lil bro is nursing 😅

I never stopped nursing my 3.5 yr old completely, and got pregnant several times in between babes (with a few losses for genetic reasons , and 1 live birth IVF where they didn't ask about breastfeeding and I just didn't say anything , just made sure to inform myself regarding meds/safety!)

Anyway, I really would like to try for a third on our own, but still no period... It took 13 months after our first baby for cycle to come back, but she was nursing more frequently than lil bro is now.... Any suggestions? Just wait it out? He isn't quite as boob-crazy as his big sis so I suppose I could wean as I've been nursing for 4 yrs straight lol, but i do love that connection and found tandem-feeding to be so niiice and stress-reducing for all of us in the early days postpartum <3

Looking for any tips to successfully help me 25-month-old move *slightly* away from nursing. I definitely want it to be a slow transition for her, but I’m having such pain while nursing, almost a nerve pain feeling after, and have small sores, like clogged ducts, on my nipples. My toddler has been totally unaffected by all of this. I’m a SAHM and my husband works evenings so having him step in isn‘t an option. We co-sleep and she wakes about 3 times a night to nurse.
We've had a beautiful breastfeeding journey, I never thought I’d hit two years but very happy we did! I don’t want the change to feel abrupt or because of a sibling, but mainly because my body is asking me to take a pause. I feel some of the language I’m using “bobos are tired, bobos hurt” are more confusing and not really helping her understand.

The time may come when I’m open to tandem, but for now, nursing about 4x a day and 3x overnight is painful and cause a serious aversion. I’m 13 weeks pregnant currently.

thank you all in advance

This is awkward but I have been breastfeeding my baby for in 2 days it will be 7 months on the dot, and all of a sudden my nipples have turned super dark. Is that normal?

My 22 month old son has been EBF and co-sleeps with me. He has never slept through the night and wakes every 1–2 hours, typically needing to nurse to connect his sleep cycles. I completed 39 days of night weaning and he was able to be rocked back to sleep instead of nursing, but he still woke just as frequently throughout the night. We eventually went back to nursing after he got a stomach bug because it felt easier and I also wanted him getting the extra comfort and nutrients while he was sick.

At this point, I’m wondering if there could be something more going on medically and if I should make an appointment with an ENT. His dentist said his tonsils and adenoids appear normal, although he also mentioned that adenoids can fluctuate day to day.

Some things that concern me: • He mouth breathes during sleep about 85% of the time, and when he does, his tongue rests low in his mouth. • He occasionally snores. • His head sweats excessively during sleep on probably 60% of nights. • His pediatrician mentioned that he has smaller ear canals, and he sometimes pulls at his ears, although he has never had an ear infection. • When he wakes during the night, it’s sometimes almost like a full-body jolt or startle. • Overall, he just seems extremely restless while sleeping, almost like he struggles to get into a deep, restful sleep.

I guess what I’m trying to figure out is whether this sounds like it could be an underlying issue affecting his sleep and worth pursuing with an ENT, or if this still sounds more like a nursing/sleep association issue that would improve with fully night weaning.

Hi! I imagine there are already a lot of similar posts, and I’ll be reading through them, but I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and am only starting my research, so I’d really appreciate some information and perspective.

My daughter is 15 months old. She falls asleep for the night without nursing, but nurses to nap and to stay asleep at night. She wakes multiple times; not every wake requires nursing, but 2–4 nursing sessions overnight is the norm. She also nurses 2–4 times during the day, mostly for comfort. We co-sleep.

She eats solids fine (maybe not amazingly) and accepts cow’s milk.

I've just learned I’m pregnant (very early on), and I’m trying to figure out how to handle this transition. I don’t think tandem feeding is for me, so I want to wean, but I honestly don’t know where to start.

We’re also moving soon to a place where she can have her own room, but I don’t know when or how to start transitioning her to her own bed and then room (or both at ince?). Right now she has a sidecar bed attached to mine, where she naps and initially falls asleep, but she doesn't stay there through the night.

I feel a bit lost and don’t know where to begin, so any insights, experiences, or resources are welcome. Please share how you handled similar situations, what worked, what didn’t, and anything you wish you’d known earlier. Thank you!

Okay so I currently have a 33 month old and almost 13 month old and I breastfeed my 13 month old ever 4 hours or so throughout the night and whenever he ask for it during the day. Here’s the thing… my almost three year old hops on whenever her brother feeds and has been doing it since he was born which isn’t a problem it’s only during the day and if I tell her no she’s fine (she doesn’t like it but it’s not like she tantrums or anything like that). That being said I just want to know I’m not the only one (or crazy) for breastfeeding two while pregnant. I can’t find anything online about it and I feel super scared I’m crazy when my family makes comments on my oldest still feeding while pregnant.

35 weeks and still nursing my 2.5 year old. I started experiencing a nursing aversion around 28 weeks or so that has gotten progressively worse. I can only tolerate like two minutes per side now if that.

Sometimes it seems like my daughter is losing interest … I will ask if she wants milk and she will say no or put it off and then ask for it when I say I’m going to do something else, for example, in the morning when I tell her I’m going to get up and get dressed then she will want it. We typically nurse morning, before nap and bedtime. If she has a belly ache or is upset then she will ask. If she doesn’t want at normal times we just skip, after all it’s up to her.

I was hoping to keep nursing her through the transition of a new baby coming home (not at the same time). I figured it would help with the feelings and we would keep some us time doing what she knows. I don’t want to make a change now and try to wean her or anything.

I don’t know what I’m looking for just words of encouragement I guess. Her lazy latch has started making my skin crawl and I’m really hoping this goes away after the birth of this baby but I’m scared that it won’t.

Hi guys! My LO is 11.5 and just noticed a drop in my supply. I’m 12 weeks pregnant. I’ve been wanting to wean and we stopped daytime nursing’s except for nap time but lately I’m getting the nursing aversion again, assuming comfort nursing is increasing due to drop in supply.
Baby nurses to sleep, CIO/ Ferber doesn’t work for us. Just hoping for tips to wean and decrease nursing sessions. He eats a lot of solids

Ugh. This is so niche that i doubt anyone has advice. I’m on day 7 of stims (300 menopur) for a TI cycle at home. I’m still nursing my 16 month old. We missed a consistent morning feed yesterday and today I am tender and sore. I iced it for awhile and I took Tylenol but not sure what else I can do. Currently planning on stimming until Friday when I have another monitoring appointment. Fingers crossed I can trigger this weekend but obviously I can’t take Advil. Ideas?

2 months PP and still nursing my toddler 3-4 times a day. Mostly I try to only nurse her after the baby is totally full/done, or I’ll nurse her on the last side he was on where I’m basically empty. She got used to no/low milk during pregnancy so she’s generally happy to get just a little and mostly wants the comfort.

However, a few times now I’ll try to get the baby satisfied before the toddler’s daytime nursing session, and then he is hungry again soon after and gets very frustrated that I don’t have more milk. Today it was a huge meltdown… but I’m not certain it was about milk or more that he was tired. But he did take a pumped bottle after he finally settled down and then passed out— so I think he was hungry and not getting what he needed from me.

I can’t tell if this has anything to do with my toddler nursing or if my milk is just settling in and I’m not producing enough for them both. There could also be a hydration factor.

I’m wanting to gradually wean my toddler anyway, but I’ve been waiting until the fourth trimester is over to not stack on too much adjustment at once.

I’m thinking I maybe need to cut out these daytime nursing sessions for her but that’s a tough one because she still wants nursing to go down for a nap…

Has anyone been through something like this?

I’m 5 weeks pregnant now and my youngest daughter is 15 months old. She eats solids of course and drinks water but I still breastfeed her a lot , especially at night but a lot during the day too. She loves it and I love it too and it makes me sad that my milk will probably dry up.

It happened when I was pregnant with her and still nursing my son who was almost 2,5 years old. But I was thinking it was mostly because I was nursing very rarely , not at all like I’m doing now. I still had milk the first months , then it dried up almost completely I think during a few months then I had some milk again the last months but it was clear, not white and not a lot.

I’ve been reading a lot of posts and comments and it seems like it almost always dries up. That’s something I honestly didn’t know before. I hope you don’t think I’m a horrible person but it almost makes me consider not keeping the baby. For other reasons too, this would be my 5th child and I’ve already had 3 C-sections.. and other reasons, complicated pregnancies before and not being sure if really want this.

Nursing means so much to my daughter , I feel like I’m failing her if I can’t do it anymore. And I also really love it.

Is there a chance I won’t have to quit? Happy to hear about your experiences and thoughts.

Has anyone gotten a period while night weaning? I have had two light periods so far but right now I’m CD12 EBF at 7 months pp. It started at brown spotting yesterday and accelerated to a light flow today. Just didn’t get this when I night weaned my first baby!

Of course I'm not promoting harvesting colostrum without reason, I personally don't think it's necessary and it's a marketing/ social media thing.

However, the recommendation is not to start before 36 weeks, so as not to induce early labour.

I'm wondering if one is nursing throughout pregnancy, couldn't she technically harvest colostrum all through, as soon as it comes in?

Are there pumping mothers (we tap feed, toddler is 1.10) who have pumped/ expressed colostrum?

Do the amounts increase? With a new born nursing you have a relatively small amount of colostrum, if you have a toddler nursing, do you end up with significant supply of colostrum or does it maintain an average?

I have a LC class tomorrow (I'm training as a lactation educator) so I will ask there as well, but better to hear first hand.

I want to share my story because things went differently than expected, but it turned out to be a positive experience in the end.

I know lots of us in this group are here because we’re about to get pregnant or newly pregnant, wondering what’s going to happen with our nursing relationship with our children. I was very much planning and hoping to nurse my first through my second pregnancy and to tandem nurse afterwards. I loved nursing her, the closeness it brought us, the ability to soothe her, the fact that she was benefiting from the antibodies in my breast milk, etc. However, I knew that I couldn’t control the effect my hormones would have on my milk supply, and I was also quite a bit sicker than with my first and had some mild aversion. I believe my supply decreased pretty significantly, because my daughter gradually through the first trimester stopped asking to nurse quite as often, and nursed for shorter and shorter periods at bedtime until she just stopped being interested at all. I’m so glad that I was able to hold all this loosely during that time, and did not try to force it or keep her nursing as she lost interest. Ultimately, our last nursing session came and went without me realizing it. I’m not even sure of the exact date, but I sensed it was coming. And yet, our relationship has remained as close as ever, I got relief from the physical strain of nursing, and I still have another breastfeeding journey to look forward to with this next baby.

I wanted to share this as a positive counter-point for the many moms who post here with worries about ending nursing earlier than they expected. I am not here to convince you not to grieve the end of one nursing journey, but just to reassure you that it may not be as difficult as you fear at this moment. Your special relationship with your nursling continues, and the foundation you built with nursing for however long will always be there. ❤️

My son was exclusively breastfed since birth but around 2 ish months old he started getting very fussy at the breast and it got worse to the point where he would push me off scream cry get angry go red and even start fighting me if I got him into a breastfeeding position. His weight gain stopped so I had to start pumping and giving him my breastmilk in bottles around 3 months and now he hardly ever latches onto my breast he will scream and cry until I give him the bottle and I am heartbroken as I really thought this would be over by now and we would go back to breastfeeding. He will be 4 months old in about a week and I am soo upset that currently he only takes bottles. I have tried all sorts of positions, feeding him in a dark room with no distractions, feeding while walking and even singing it to him but nothing works anymore as soon as I put him into feeding position he kicks off or sometimes rarely he won’t but then as soon as I get him to latch he starts. I am really worried that breastfeeding is officially over for us 🥺