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I've been listening to Dana K. White while I do the decluttering work, and it's been very motivating. What books should I listen to next to keep this motivation going?

I'm asking this to help me better understand. I asked one person who said that non-Zionist is just a cop out for those who aren't ready to commit to AZ. She said non-Zionist makes no sense in the same way that "non-Apartheid" or "non-slavery" or "non-racist" make no sense.

My younger son just turned 15 months, and he was 30lbs, 32 inches at his appt 2 weeks ago. Our pediatrician said everything looks great, and she has no concerns. Out of curiosity, I checked his record, and my older son (now 4.5 years old) was exactly the same height but only 23 lbs. I'm curious if anyone else has noticed something similar between your kids and how things worked out as they got older.

Are there any play groups in Tucson that I could join with my toddler? I'd like to meet more friends who have young children. I currently work full time but am trying to move to part time so I have more time with my toddler. Thanks!

I weaned my older son about a year ago, when our new baby was a few months old. I still let him cuddle my breast while my now 14-month-old nurses, but he often tries to put his mouth on it and still says he's sad that he doesn't nurse anymore. Anyone else have a similar experience?

What are your thoughts?

What are your thoughts on Underbrush gum?

I'm currently visiting my parents in their 3,500 sqft house. It's relatively organized but definitely full of stuff. My parents are elderly but in pretty decent health. I'm just very nervous about what I'll be left to deal with when they're gone. My mother-in-law died suddenly a few years ago, and even though she had a small, fairly minimalist house, it was still a lot to deal with.

My mom has talked about wanting to downsize, but my dad is totally against it. I know he wants to die in this house. My mom has witnessed the progress I've made in my 1,500 sqft house and talks about how nice it would be to have fewer belongings, so I've gently tried to encourage her to start going through her stuff. I've taken a few boxes with me to donate sometimes when I leave, but it's hard for her to let things go. She's done small amounts on her own, and my sister hired someone once to help our mom, but I can't imagine any major progress happening anytime soon. Do I do anything at this point or just wait it out and deal with whatever comes whenever it comes?

I'm intrigued by the Kyocera Dura XV, but I'm concerned with the quality of the camera. I have 2 young kids and really want to be able to snap good photos on the fly. Are there any better phones I should consider?

I currently have a smart phone and have uninstalled most apps, so I may just stick with that.

Are there any play groups I could join with my toddler? I'd like to meet more friends who have young children. I currently work full time but am trying to move to part time so I have more time with my toddler. Thanks!

Should we stay in Carlsbad, Oceanside, or Encinitas?

I'm really vibing with these rules for most things, but I don't see how sentimental items fit into the steps and questions. She talked about it briefly when discussing the container concept and there's the whole--keep one and use it up. But how do you decide when the decluttering questions don't apply here?

Edit: I think the hardest things for me will be old journals and photos. Yearbooks... That kind of thing too

We live in Tucson and are thinking about taking our kids (currently 4 years and 13 months) at the end of July. Everyone already has passports. Is this a good idea? Where should we stay? We definitely want easy access to the beach but also decently quiet at night, if that's possible. We're thinking Airbnb so that we can prepare some of our own meals, but we'd also love restaurant recommendations. Thanks!

Please let me know if there's a better sub in which to ask about this.

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I've seen in other groups that women are using estrogen cream to alleviate postpartum vaginal symptoms. I'm looking for resources pro and con but most people also talk about IUD insertion and the like, so I just don't feel like we're on the same wavelength (I've been using FAM for like 5 years). Would appreciate any thoughts on this. Thanks!

I was just reading a post on the breastfeeding sub where basically everyone was recommending this for painful sex. I'm curious to hear what this sub thinks of it.

Screaming, screeching, whatever you want to call it, but it's awful. My husband and I can tolerate it to some extent, but it's really upsetting our 4-year-old. We've taken to using his earmuffs, but it's not a permanent solution. Our 13-month-old screams when he's bored, when he's excited, whether we're giving him full attention, whether we're ignoring him. We've tried taking him to another room when he does it. I'm sure it has a lot to do with the fact that he understands so much now but can't really express himself, so we're trying to encourage him to use other sounds, hand signs, etc.

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If you've experienced this, how long did it last? Did you find anything that helped?

Screaming, screeching, whatever you want to call it, but it's awful. My husband and I can tolerate it to some extent, but it's really upsetting our 4-year-old. We've taken to using his earmuffs, but it's not a permanent solution. Our 13-month-old screams when he's bored, when he's excited, whether we're giving him full attention, whether we're ignoring him. We've tried taking him to another room when he does it. I'm sure it has a lot to do with the fact that he understands so much now but can't really express himself, so we're trying to encourage him to use other sounds, hand signs, etc.

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If you've experienced this, how long did it last? Did you find anything that helped?

Thinking about leaving my job to become a SAHM

My son is 13 months old and has been in daycare for about 2 months. I work from home and managed to keep him home that long with some help from my mom and babysitters here and there. I'm working on running the numbers to see how this would really impact our lives, but I know in my heart it's what I want. I don't really like my job, but it's super flexible, pays well, and provides health insurance for all of us (husband and 4-year-old as well). I'm in the US, so unfortunately that's a huge factor.

The daycare we picked is really good, they seem very nurturing, and he's generally happy there. I do have some concerns about how they're feeding him, as I'm pretty picky about what food comes into our house (though we try not to be too restrictive outside the house). He used to love my from scratch cooking, but he's often not hungry when he gets home because I think they sort of over-feed the kids things like graham crackers in order to keep them happy. If I had my way, he wouldn't eat anything with added sugar until at least age 2.

As far as my feelings about having him home, I do worry that I'm thinking the grass is greener on the other side, and I'll come to regret this choice when it inevitably becomes exhausting, frustrating, or boring at times. I'm also worried about the world and afraid for the future, concerned I won't get another job when I want one, and all of that. With that, none of us knows what the future holds, and my baby is only going to be little for a short time, so this is my only chance. If I could, I would just live in a commune or at least in a co-housing situation where we all take care of our kids together, but that's not my reality.

I'd love to hear if any of you have been through a similar experience and how it went for you.

My son is 13 months old and has been in daycare for about 2 months. I work from home and managed to keep him home that long with some help from my mom and babysitters here and there. I'm working on running the numbers to see how this would really impact our lives, but I know in my heart it's what I want. I don't really like my job, but it's super flexible, pays well, and provides health insurance for all of us (husband and 4-year-old as well). I'm in the US, so unfortunately that's a huge factor.

The daycare we picked is really good, they seem very nurturing, and he's generally happy there. I do have some concerns about how they're feeding him, as I'm pretty picky about what food comes into our house (though we try not to be too restrictive outside the house). He used to love my from scratch cooking, but he's often not hungry when he gets home because I think they sort of over-feed the kids things like graham crackers in order to keep them happy. If I had my way, he wouldn't eat anything with added sugar until at least age 2.

As far as my feelings about having him home, I do worry that I'm thinking the grass is greener on the other side, and I'll come to regret this choice when it inevitably becomes exhausting, frustrating, or boring at times. I'm also worried about the world and afraid for the future, concerned I won't get another job when I want one, and all of that. With that, none of us knows what the future holds, and my baby is only going to be little for a short time, so this is my only chance. If I could, I would just live in a commune or at least in a co-housing situation where we all take care of our kids together, but that's not my reality.

I'd love to hear if any of you have been through a similar experience and how it went for you.

My 12-month-old seems to have chosen a plastic screwdriver from the John Deere tool belt set. I think it's so funny! He carries it everywhere, including to bed. My older son never got attached to an object even though I tried many stuffed animals.