r/BabyLedWeaning

my in laws are really pushy about sugar since baby was 6 months and starting solids. every single time we see them, they make a comment about giving my LO a bite of the dessert we’re eating, even tho my husband and i have repeatedly made it clear we’re not giving him sugar. at one point my MIL was blatantly feeding him these loaded waffles even though my husband was telling her to stop. she even made a comment directly to baby about how he’ll like grandma better because she gives him sugar and mom and dad are “bad” (baby was 8 months). both FIL and MIL have made comments or “jokes” about giving him sugar while we’re not there, and my husband finally had to lightly say that baby would not be coming around without us if they do that.

anyways, now baby is going on 1 year and i do give him occasional sugar, like yogurt pouches, cheerios, or a bite of something i’m eating if he shows interest in it. but im still telling my in laws he’s not having any sugar until 2 years. i KNOW if i open the floodgates they’re going to load him up and i wont even be able to say no. right now i still have control over how much he consumes

same with screen time. if i need to take a 5 min shower i do sit my LO down with ms. rachel every so often, or if im cooking something like meat where my hands will be dirty for a few mins etc. they don’t know this either because i know they’ll sit him down in front of the TV while we’re not there

unfortunately, because of repeatedly pushing my boundaries with both their comments and actions i have to do this, though i feel a tiny bit guilty about it because my husband doesn’t know. i know he won’t like that im lying to his family but we also come from a culture where babies are very much everyone’s babies, so it’s way harder to get his parents to listen to us lmao

just needed to get that off of my chest 😅

Up until this point my 9 month old has been amazing with food - trying anything we put in front of him, demolishing everything we put on his plate. For the last few days he’s just been throwing everything on the floor. We’ve tried the whole don’t react, we’ve just picked it up off the floor and put it back on his plate (within reason) or just waited before giving him another piece to eat. Because he has eaten so well until this point we are really struggling to understand why he’s doing it so suddenly and how we can actually make sure he’s eating enough. We can spoon feed him to a point but then he just gets frustrated that he can’t do it himself.

He had some peanut butter on toast this morning and he probably ate 4 bites before everything we gave him was on the floor.

I’ve seen that it’s likely some sort of developmental/attention seeking stage, but going from having such a good eater to now throwing everything - it’s a big jump!

My LO is almost 1. We’ve done baby led weaning and I’ve made most his meals besides using little spoons frozen proteins and veggies, and yougurt melts and puffs.

I know that it won’t be practical for my self to do this 24/7 as we start getting out more or just as he gets older.

I don’t know when to introduce certain category’s of food to him.

Such as salt & sugar. Or even like sugar alternatives like maple syrup.

I also see people giving their 1 yr old crackers like goldfish. (While I’m not one for goldfish I’m wondering if other crackers are appropriate??)

He normally eats what we eat. But I’ll pull a little out for him if I’m going to salt the food. But I feel I’ve been pretty strict on what he can eat. I would say he’s on a more of a whole foods kind of diet. Which i know is ideal BUT not always practical. I don’t eat like that all the time by any means. So I’m wondering when you introduced baby to more of the processed foods and such.

Im probably over thinking this. But I’m a first time mom and just like to hear what other people like to do so I can get perspective and info to make my own decisions.

Hi ! FTM here and anxious one.
My LO is 12months old (in2weeks) and is still on purees. We give him finger foods every meal, he tries but most of the time throws it or doesn’t bite and doesn’t look convinced.

I know that we will pick it up some day, but I’m anxious because he is one of the last babies at daycare not eating “real food”.

Am I the only one here in this situation ? Should I quit purees at once and completely or let him get used to solid foods slowly.

Thanks 🙏

I have an almost 4 month old so will start food when we get pediatrician approval so can someone please explain starting solids to me like I’m 5? Do I start with purées and if so which ones? How often? When do you start increasing the amount of food? Do you have a schedule? When do you introduce BLW? I am so confused!

While I do have a toddler. I had severe PPD and she wouldn’t eat much and is still till this day the pickiest eater ever and I truly think it’s my fault because I never put in effort before she was 1. I took the whole food is for fun before 1 too seriously and didn’t try and regret it so much

My daughter is almost 10 months and still breastfeeds constantly, especially at night. She wakes up around every hour and usually wants to nurse, sometimes just for a minute or two. She also nurses very frequently during the day.
The problem is that she DOESN’T WANT TO eats any solids. We’ve been offering food for 4 months finger foods, family meals, different textures, eating together, letting her explore, etc. She’ll pick food up, lick/suck or chew a little or just chef a bit on her baby pacifier feeder? If thats the english word, then drop it. Very little to none actually gets swallowed.
She also hates the high chair when food is offered and if she gets even slightly hungry, she immediately wants to breastfeed. If I try offering food before nursing, she can scream until I give her the breast.
I’m starting to wonder if breastfeeding this frequently is affecting her appetite for solids. But I also don’t want to suddenly restrict breastfeeding when she clearly wants it and needs it now with separation anxiety at its peak
Has anyone had a baby this age who was really resistant to solids but breastfed constantly? Did things improve naturally, or did reducing breastfeeding (especially at night) make a difference? I’m honestly getting so worried and frustrated. Thank you all!!

Anyone else started to "wean with green" and getting nowhere? Like not even putting anything near his mouth? We thought he was ready as he is always grabbing towards our food. But we've tried broccoli, courgette and avocado and he vaguely picks it up, maybe touches it near his lips and then that's it... Everything non-food he picks up he shoves in his mouth!

My baby is 9.5 months old and is a very aggressive eater. I’ve tried BLW and he just stuffs his face and it scares me so bad 😭 so we’ve been doing purées but I need ideas for chunkier/lumpier purées! He eats scrambled eggs with cottage cheese almost every morning. And I made chicken in the food processor mixed with sweet potato. But that’s really the only ‘chunky’ food he’s gotten. I tried ground turkey last night and he just spit it out lol. I saw a post about stews which is a great idea! I’ll definitely be making something up. Any other ideas???
I know so many people make these big BLW plates but he literally eats like he hasn’t eaten in a week the way he stuffs his mouth so I’m really trying to take it slow 😭

When my baby was 5-6 months, he was obsessed with eating. He would copy our chewing and reach for our food. We started blw at 6 months and he was taking to it well. But, I noticed he was just sucking and wasn’t ingesting much so I added some mushy food so he could ingest a little more iron. I would load his spoon and give it to him to handle. He did that successfully for one week. But, now he screams if I even get near his spoon to reload after the first bite. He just plays with it and sucks and chews on it for forever. So, he’s basically only getting one bite. I don’t want to force the reload of the spoon because I don’t want any negative associations with feeding time. I tried no spoon with mushier options and he doesn’t reach to eat it with his hands. He needs me to hand him the spoon. So right now we’re stuck to him sucking on the solids and taking one bite of the mashed food.

My mindset currently is that it will get better when he develops his pincer grasp because then he can take in smaller bites on his own and ingest them. Is this consistent with other people’s experience?

Thanks!

(ftm) i have an 8 month old son he kinda sucks with solids. some days he eats more than others but i dont worry to much knowing he gets his vitamins and stuff from formula.

my question is how do i make sure he gets enough of what he needs when i have to get him off formula at 12 months? im scared im going to make him starve or something when we have to get him off formula seeing he doesnt do a good job with solids some days.

I’ve been exclusively breastfeeding my 9m old baby on demand so far. She has been a hungry baby from the start and refuses formula. She is 95% for weight. She started solids at 6m and she actually consumes a decent amount or atleast did till about 8m. has been up and down. Although the last few weeks has been quite rough for solids and I feel like she is nursing more, which I understand is okay. Just wondering if it’s become a vicious cycle of nursing more leading to appetite for solids?

Until what age is it appropriate to breastfeed on demand without worrying about the amount of solids consumed?

I’ve heard “food before one is just for fun” but I don’t understand how the transition from exclusively breastfeeding at 6m to mostly eating solids at 12m and nursing for immunity/comfort happens?

What are we doing with toddlers who are refusing food but are definitely hungry?

always give her fruit and yoghurt which will be eaten but the main bit (carbs, meat, veg) will go mostly untouched. However, I know that if I put down a plate of pasta in a tomato sauce my 16mo will eat as much as I give her so I know she must be hungry.

I don’t offer her an alternate meal often (only once or twice when I was genuinely concerned) so most meals consist of one or two bites of food and then yoghurt and fruit aside from twice a week where she gorges herself on pasta.

Am I doing the right thing? Should I always give her some pasta with other food so she’s at least regularly getting more than just fruit/yoghurt? Should I lose the fruit/yoghurt and try and get her to eat more ‘main’ that way? Cut down on milk?

I’m honestly at a loss and it’s really stressing me out. She’s never been a great eater, has CMPA and still has 12-15oz oat milk a day.

Looking for advice. My 10.5 month old feels ssooooooo far from weaning and I desperately need to stop lactating. He used to be great at solids and then had a regression at 8 months and now gets support from early intervention for food stuff. I’m really not sure what it is - he has strong opinions about food and can only sit for a little bit without getting distracted or frustrated. Maybe we are cutting things wrong or giving too much milk. I think there may be some attention or sensory adjacent issues but I’m really not sure. I have been looking forward to 1 years old as a cut off for lactation and it feels like there is no end in sight.

Would appreciate folks advise, especially if you’ve had similar experience

Hi everyone, FTM on our weaning journey and wondered how much milk (formula/breast milk) LOs are still having for those that are bottle fed and know.

My LO is 8months, and absolutely loves his solids from the start. He’s now on 3 good sized meals a day and very comfortable with things like toast and soft pasta etc.

I wasn’t expecting his milk to decrease until around 10-12 months, but this last few weeks there’s been a decline in what he wants.

He was having 210ml / 7oz morning and night, and then 150ml / 5oz at 11am and 4pm. It’s now dropped to around 150ml/ 5oz morning and night, and about 90-120ml 3/4oz late morning and afternoon.

Do you phase one bottle out or let all bottles decrease in volume? And from those who’ve gone through this stage roughly when did they start decreasing?

Thanks!