u/Disastrous_Cookie121

My baby was on goats milk formula from birth until two months. Everything was great except he barely finished half his bottle. He was slow to keep up with other babies on weight gain, though he was gaining weight slowly but surely.

To get him to eat more we decided to try regular milk formula. He started eating way more! Must taste better! After 4 weeks on it, baby now has intense diarrhea. I’m assuming it’s an intolerance. But we can’t go back to goats milk because he eats so little. I don’t know what to do!!!!

Edit: baby is in the first percentile and can’t afford to lose weight because he’s drinking a milk he doesn’t like. He already does “just enough” with the cows milk formula and sometimes still not enough.

My baby has been pretty happy to play with mama and between weeks 8-10 loved to have cooing conversations with mom. However, since turning 12 weeks, my baby no longer coos to chat but just coos to complain. He doesn’t want to sit and play with mommy but would rather sit in his baby bjorn and watch the world. Way less interacting.

Is this a regression or is baby just getting finicky about his time?

Does anyone else get jealous of their husband during his shift. My husband does the night shift and I do all day with our 11 week old. I feel so guilty that I’m not the one exclusively feeding our baby. I want him to associate me with food and know I’m his mama. It’s been tough enough accepting that breastfeeding will never work out. But, also not being his exclusive “feeder” makes me feel like he’ll never develop a special attachment to me as his mom.

I need sleep, but I get so jealous when it’s my husbands shift. This whole journey has been so hard with failed BF and trying to bond with baby. I feel like a failure in so many ways and like I’m not doing enough as baby’s mama.

My journey with combo feeding is pretty complicated. I am 11 weeks pp. I need people’s input and advice.

I had always wanted to EBF. However, my baby was born with a tongue tie (and recessed chin) and he wasn’t transferring from the start. By day 5 pp, i was engorged but my baby had lost 18% of his weight and we had to start formula until he brought his weight back up. During that time, i was so worried and scared for my baby that all my efforts went into essentially force feeding him formula every 2 hours to bring his weight up (directed by our doctor as this was an emergency situation). Baby did not like to eat and ir was a struggle, many nights crying. I was effing fed up with breastfeeding because it essentially caused my baby to be sickly. I was devastated. I did not continue to try to breastfeed during this time.

After about a week when baby’s weight came up (2 weeks pp) I started pumping, but my supply was very low. I was producing about 5 oz a day. My baby consistently stayed low weight even on formula, he never wanted to drink more than 2 oz of formula and it was a stressful first 8 weeks. Our doctor had been pressuring us to get him to drink more and gain more weight. During that time I would pump 6-7 times a day but my supply never increased much. I got to about 7 oz. I would try to latch baby but he would just fall asleep and he wouldn’t drink any formula afterward. He would fall asleep drinking the bottle too, but at least with the bottle I could force his feed a little. My baby drinking anything at this point was still essential because he had such a low appetite. So the priority was still formula.

We got his tongue tie fixed at 6 weeks and he seemed to have a stronger latch but still wasn’t transferring. I never wanted to try to latch baby at this point because he would eat even less of his formula after latching for a while because he was exhausted (we did weighed feeds . He transferred nothing). After about 8 weeks of my ped pressuring us that we need baby’s weight up etc. and baby having low appetite, I just decided I couldn’t continue to pump 7 times a day for little payoff (7 oz). I was more worried about my baby drinking AT ALL, formula versus BM didn’t matter. I started to pump about 4 times a day to maintain some supply.

Fast forward, my baby is 11 weeks. He has just this week started to drinking an avg amount of formula normally and is not having to be force fed by constantly waking, tickling, making him cold, etc. I have started latching him more for comfort and I noticed he seems to be transferring at least something now . However my supply is super low (4 oz a day). I want to build my supply up to feed baby now.

Is it too late to build supply at 11 weeks? I really can’t imagine doing multiple MOTN pumps again. Trying to pump 8-10 times a day was killing me. Ideally, I want to build up supply by latching baby. Is this possible? I’m never certain he’s transferring. Also, my supply is so low that even if he is it’s surely never enough. I guess my question is- is it possible to build up supply at 11 weeks? AND where do I even start if I want to primarily rely on baby’s latch?

Apologies for the long read.

since pregnancy I’ve been pretty meticulous about products materials, from my babies crib to his clothes.

Ive used only glass bottles but have been forced to use plastic facets in my bottles for anticolic options. I sterilized these plastic pieces and fed my baby through them and I’m going down a rabbit hole of anxiety about it. In the moment (postpartum trenches) I couldn’t worry about. I was just trying to survive so I just accepted it. Now that my baby is 10 weeks and he’s passed his colic stage, I have removed the plastic facets. But, I keep thinking I’ve caused permanent damage and it’s eating me up.

It feels like this is such a losing battle. Everything is plastic and it’s soooo upsetting.

All my babies clothes are cotton and I’ve been really meticulous about materials. But so many of my clothes (mom) are a polyester blend. When I look for natural fiber clothing, they are pretty unappealing. Everything is shapeless or boho. As a 32 year old younger millennial mom, I’m not ready to give up on cute clothes just yet.

Does anyone know where I can find natural fiber clothing that is also trendy ? It doesn’t have to be the latest annual fashion, but something more than a shapeless button up and linen pants! Brands like quince just aren’t doing it for me.

My 10 week old baby doesn’t seem to care at all about me (his mom). He doesn’t look up and smile at me, he doesn’t prefer me over his dad or frankly anyone, he doesn’t look into my eyes when he feeds or act excited when I’m around. He literally doesn’t give an ounce about me. Not that he cares about anyone really but not even his mom? Sheesh. He just wants me and his dad to give him what he wants and that’s that. Lol

He only ever makes eye contact when I sit in front of him and play with him and he will smile at bops and boops. But a monkey could be the one playing with him and he’d be just as happy. Is this normal for this age? Or is my child not attached to me ?