r/NewMomStuff

I am thinking my breastfeeding journey is coming to an end. My LO is 6 months today and has been EBF since he was 8 weeks, and it has never not been painful/uncomfortable to breastfeed him since day 1.

I exclusively pumped for him before that due to refusal to latch, and then was able to start breastfeeding after seeing an amazing LC.

It was fine until about 12 weeks when my supply regulated and my LO started chewing to compensate for a tongue tie we suspected he might have, so i went forward with a release which did pretty much nothing. Got a revision done, also no change until finally about a month ago he just started nursing properly for the first time ever. It was still uncomfortable, but was almost completely pain free and then boom he starts teething at 5.5 months.

He now has 1 emerged bottom tooth and one still trying to erupt, and we are suspecting his top teeth are also coming in.

It wasn’t painful at first, but the more his teeth come out the more painful it is getting. I don’t think I will be able to continue EBF much longer, my nipples are not used to the abuse from improper nursing like they once were.

Does anyone who has gone from EBF to exclusively pumping have any tips for me? Words of encouragement?

Could you share any suggestions? My LO is 2 months , refusing breast and crying like anything after 8 minutes of feeding and starts to arch after that when held in hand.

He stops crying when he is held away from my breast. But he again shows hunger cues like putting hand in mouth vigorously.

Even though I burp him, make him calm etc, he is still very stubborn when brought near breast and starts crying. Now he started to spit bottle teat too. So altogether drinking very little. But he feeds in every 1.5 hrs. I'm very much tired of this 1.5 hrs schedule and with him crying and rejecting, I feel very helpless.

I tried holding him near my breast and also giving compression while he starts to slow down the sucking. Still near to 8-10 minutes, he starts to cry.

Also i noticed that about 20-30 minutes after feed, he spits curdled milk. Even though i burp him and hold him upright.

He sometimes takes in formula feed once in a day or once in 2 days and completes without any crying. But i thought to avoid that now as he'll hate breast more. But then now he has very little feed altogether.

I need help mommies.. i was a happy mom till this week. But since then he started crying and i am helpless and very much worried now.

Edit: Also there are times when i fool him by providing a teat and when he stops crying and starts sucking that, i bring him near breast and make him latch. Sometimes that works and sometimes it doesnt. If it works, he again feeds for next 8-10 minutes and after that does the same

Hello everyone, I am a first time mom and I’m really upset and I feel like the worst mom ever. My baby is 2 months old now, when he was first born he was 6 pounds 6 ounces and now at 2 months he is only 8 pounds. We have had many different weight checks and every time the pediatrician tells me that he’s not gaining enough weight, which makes me feel like such a bad mom. The first time the pediatrician said something I changed to nursing him every three hours instead on demand. Which that seemed like it helped until the next appointment and then he still wasn’t gaining enough weight and then he said switch to every 2 hours. When we went back he said he still wasn’t gaining enough weight so my pediatrician then said to try MCT oil and instead of nursing all day do 2 bottles of 5mls each a day. Which we just started that yesterday and we have another weight check in 2 weeks so we will see if that will help. If that dosent help, does anyone know what the next step will be? Just so I can be prepared for anything and everything. Or anything that can help because like I said I just feel like a terrible mom and I’ve been trying so hard since day 1.

Currently in the 6-8 weeks trenches…. Does it gets better?
She used to be a great sleeper and all of a sudden she can’t sleep during the day and at night too.. she has been smiling and “””talking””” a lot but refuses to sleep and cries a lot, can only nurse her to sleep but the minute I put her down she starts to cry.
Is it normal? Does it gets better? I’m exhausted and thinking I’m doing something wrong

I know it sounds like a stupid question… but like even when I had to have a blood patch done or heck when I let him spend the night with his grandparents my husband and I didn’t know what to do. I wanted to cry because he wasn’t with us. With me being so used to him always with me I don’t know how I am going to be with going back to school (cosmetology). I feel like the hours are going to go by so slow it’s literally got me stressed out!

IMPORTANT DISCLOSURE: I haven’t seen my brother, sister-in-law or niece and nephew in a year or two, so I really want to go and I want them to see her too!

So in June I will be traveling to my niece’s graduation party and since they live in Michigan and I live a couple of states away, (8 hour trip there and 8 hours back) I plan to take my babygirl with me. She is 5 months chronologically, but adjusted age is 3 months.

What should I bring along on this trip?

I have a pack n play but she doesn’t sleep well in it, so should I bring her actual bassinet?

Also should I change the appointment to get the rest of her shots after the trip?

My mom made a point on how baby girl was sick and very pretty fussy for a couple of days afterwards.

Thoughts on either travel or changing the appointment for shots.

Also helps if anyone has ever travelled with their baby long distance, where you had to stay in a hotel overnight.

My baby is almost a month old and has an ongoing cycle of waking up every 2-3 hours to be fed and have her diaper changed. During the daytime, after feeding her, sometimes she’s up for about 1-3 hours being fuss. This leaves me with no time to pump, do chores, or even catch up on sleep.

During the night time, my baby will sleep in 2-3 hour stretches, but when she wakes up I feel like I’m going to pass out from sleep deprivation and even accidentally drop her when I carry her to and from her bassinet & changing table….

My iron levels were checked - not anemic/iron deficient.

I‘m staying well-hydrated and eating when I can (usually breakfast and dinner only bc baby is fussy in between).

I am just SO TIRED and feel like I need to sleep for a week to be fully well-rested.

The only family near me that could watch our baby, works full-time… And my husband works full-time as well.

I don’t know how I’ll survive the newborn stage… I am just so exhausted every hour of the day and also burned out…

SOS…

my baby will be 5 months at the end of this month and he is sleeping pretty much every 90min. he takes shorts naps 30-45 min and his wake windows are still about an 1.5 hours. he usually skips his last nap of the day and is down for bed around 730pm. sleeps ok at night wakes to eat 1-2 times. but im wondering if this is still normal for his age. I thought he would be taking less frequent but longer naps around this time.

I’m 26 weeks and excited, is it too early to start nesting? lol

My baby’s 2 weeks and is starting to just eat on one side at a time. I manually pump the other side when this happens but is this okay? She seems to be getting enough

Hi everyone. My baby girl officially turns 9 weeks this week, and I honestly just need to vent and hear from other moms who may have gone through something similar.
The first 5 weeks were incredibly hard for me. I was dealing with postpartum depression while also trying to navigate becoming a first-time mom. To be completely honest, I barely remember that first month because I spent most of it crying nonstop and just trying to survive each day.
My baby has colic and reflux, and on top of that she only wants to be held. No matter what I try, she refuses to sleep independently. She hates baby wearing too, so most of my day is spent holding her or pushing her in the stroller while constantly rocking it because the second it stops moving, she wakes up screaming.
We even tried baby chiropractic care. The first session seemed to help a little, but after that we didn’t notice much difference.

No matter what I do, she still struggles to sleep on her own. The only small improvement I’ve noticed this week is that after her early morning feeds, she’s sometimes able to put herself back to sleep. She still wakes every 3 hours to feed. There were only about 3 times where she gave me a solid 5-hour stretch, but I haven’t been able to recreate it even after trying all the same things again — extra ounces before bed, formula at night instead of breast milk, etc.
I’m also exclusively pumping, which has added so much to my exhaustion. Since she feeds every 3 hours, I sometimes have to supplement with formula because I physically cannot keep up with the demand. My milk supply came in a few days late, and she ended up refusing to latch. We saw a lactation consultant and tried multiple suggestions, but nothing really worked. Now whenever I offer the breast, she cries almost immediately.
I think the hardest part is feeling like I never truly get a moment to myself. We do get help from our moms, and I’m grateful for it, but most of the help is holding or feeding the baby while I continue doing everything else. I miss simple things like taking a shower without rushing, brushing my hair properly, or just sitting quietly for 10 minutes.
My husband helps as much as he can, but he works 14-hour days and has a long commute, so I told him to sleep in another room because I’m terrified of him falling asleep while driving.
Has anyone gone through something similar with reflux, colic, contact sleeping, or exclusive pumping? Did it eventually get better? I would really appreciate any advice, reassurance, or even just hearing that I’m not alone because lately I feel like I’m slowly losing myself.

I have an 8-month-old baby and I’ve been seeing reports of measles cases in Manhattan, Long Island, and New Jersey. I’m curious how other moms of babies who are too young to be vaccinated are navigating this. I really want to enjoy the summer with my baby, but I’m starting to feel worried about the risk of it spreading. Any advice would be appreciated.

Ever since becoming a mom, I feel like my entire perspective on work changed.

Before having my baby, I could work nonstop and not think much about it. But now? The thought of being away all day, missing milestones, trying to keep up with breastfeeding while working onsite, and barely getting enough time with my baby honestly makes me emotional.

At the same time, I still want a career. I like working. I like learning new things and feeling productive and independent. I’m just trying to figure out how to balance both without feeling like I’m failing somewhere.

I’ve been working remotely for 5+ years and I’m honestly really hoping to continue down that path. I’m an engineer and most of my experience is in virtual assistant work, backend operations, automations, CRM setup, funnels, AI tools, admin support, and helping businesses stay organized behind the scenes.

I’ve worked with medspas, real estate groups, law firms, coaches, wellness brands, and lead gen companies using platforms like GoHighLevel, ClickFunnels, Zapier, HubSpot, Stripe, Calendly, Twilio, Canva, QuickBooks, and more.

I guess I’m posting because I’m curious if other moms here felt the same after having a baby? Did remote work end up being the best option for you too?

And if anyone happens to know of remote opportunities, I’d definitely appreciate it if you reached out. 🤍

Hi all, I have lots of new unopened boxes of breastmilk storage bags. What to do with them? I also have new other new mom essentials I didn’t open( I got more cause I was scared I needed more). Any help is appreciated.

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My OB told me we can’t hear the heartbeat till the 22nd week. I am in my 22nd week right now and my appointment was two days ago and she said i will get to hear it next month.

I know for a fact you can hear your baby’s heartbeat as early as 12 to 14 weeks but she said it’s not possible.
My friend is also pregnant and i’m further along in my pregnancy than hers but she heard her baby’s beat

I feel like my OB is taking a valuable experience from me and she is not giving a valid excuse.

Also if there is any german moms/moms living in germany here, can you please tell me if there is a new regulation against 3D ultrasounds? My OB said “what if the baby doesn’t like it but can’t consent” while also advertising 3D ultrasound in the waiting room

My 4 month old is addicted to pacifier for naps. We only introduced at 2.5 months during witching hours because we were going crazy with his reflux and crying. Since a month he’s waking up from contact naps asking for pacifier. Initially we gave it so he could just get some sleep after a few crappy crib naps. Now it seems like he just wants paci for all naps, whether he’s in a carrier or on my chest or lap or crib. Doesn’t matter!!

For nighttime, my husband picks him up from crib and rocks him 3-4 times when he fusses. Our LO is generally not a good sleeper, sometimes we get frustrated and give paci at night so we could get some sleep. Again, very rarely we do that. So nighttime is still ok.

My mom is leaving in a week and husband only works from home once a week. I’m on mat leave until November. So I can’t imagine doing all contact naps by myself with this paci addiction. I want to be able to put him in a carrier and go out without having to replace pacifier every 15 mins.

Do I go cold turkey or do it gradually? If I use it just to get him to sleep and then remove it, will he still ask for it? Appreciate any advice/suggestions 🙏🏽😭

If this matters - he’s 80% breastfed and 20% formula fed. Very rarely nurses to sleep, so he’s great at switching between breast and bottle.

Warning: Venting.

I’m a little upset at my pediatrician and/or her nurse. My baby is really upset and sick with a cold we probably gave her. 🥺

But the pedi’s nurse said no Tylenol because it would mask her fever, and we can’t take her to hospital until her fever is 100.5, it’s 99.6 now, but it’s a fever for her, she’s clearly miserable.

That’s f’ing stupid.

Should I get another pediatrician even though it would be an hour away from here? Or do we need to keep this one since it’s close.

I wish I could get another opinion.