r/NewMomStuff

I need to be talked off a ledge… My husband’s entire family has been overbearing my entire pregnancy up to the point of giving birth where they stayed in the delivery room until my nurse kicked them out.

The grandmother stayed in the room while I was having a cervical check and the nurse and I didn’t realize she was there until I caught a glimpse of her under the nurses arm, staring at my vagina watching the nurse give me the cervical check. She also came over one day while I was in the middle of breast-feeding and my friend and I were struggling to cover my chest while they sat on the couch and she stared right at my boobs… This is just kind of a glimpse into how she is.

Well flash forward to today, my mother-in-law and she decided that they are going to let my son be naked on the porch and air his stuff out. Then she takes a naked picture of my son with EVERYTHING SHOWING and sends it to her out of town daughter.
And then laughs and tells me about it
I was stunned into silence and took him away to breastfeed him…
I am irate, my blood is boiling
My husband is out of town for work and I’ve only been married a year, so I don’t really know these people very well. What should I do?

I have an 8 hour course coming up on the 13th and will be leaving my breastfed baby with my MIL for the day. He will be 4 months by then. Since 9 weeks we have been trying to introduce a bottle once a day. He’s able to drink from the bottle but he gets bored & doesn’t finish it. Max he’s drank is 60ml and we usually have to throw the breastmilk away. We left him with my MIL today for a trial run for 3.5 hours. She gave him a bottle as soon as we left and he drank 50-60ml. He then had a great morning with her and took a nap, but when he woke up he was hungry and inconsolable which is right when my husband and I arrived to pick him up. He wouldn’t take the bottle from her at that point because he wouldn’t stop crying. This makes me so worried to leave him for the entire day. Any tips or tricks to get him to take the bottle?

She recently rsvpd us for an event without telling me. My husband says he and her talked about it before she did it but I don’t think they did because she sent me an email telling me about it while he was working. She works for my husband so she has access to his email. But this isn’t the first time she’s done this she also signed my baby up for something with my husband. They had to pick a cute slogan for the baby and stuff that I thought would be fun to do with him. But they did it before I could even talk to him about signing the baby up. Like if it was even something he’d be interested in. They didn’t even ask me if it was something I’d be comfortable with. Which I was but just feels weird like another person is in our relationship. I talked to him about it how this isn’t the first time she’s done this. And he just said he agreed she shouldn’t tell me before he’s had a chance to tell me. But what if I wanted to be the one to rsvp. And see what the event even was. What would you do?

My baby is 8 months old we listen to a song about lil duckies swimming and then go missing one at a time, well lol by the time mama duck looses all of her baby ducks I’ve caught my baby crying like 3 times lol!!!! Oh my shes going to be sensitive! Ima have to toughen her up but still care that’s such a hard medium!! I’m still learning myself!! Just thought I’d share!

My husbands family is HUGE. I have a lot of social anxiety and have had a lot of trouble getting along with them. We have a two and a half month old and I’m exhausted everyday. (He’s back at work already). They constantly talk about how immature I am and that I’m irresponsible. I feel judged for every little thing I do or don’t do. This party has been stressing me out so much and I really don’t want to go. He wants me to try and connect with them. Which I am doing. But this whole party is going to be a LOT of people more than 40 probably and I can’t picture myself going today. I feel like it’s too much with the newborn.

Mine would be: What's one thing you wish you had done differently during those first few weeks with your newborn?

I feel like there's so much advice out there, but real experiences from parents are always the most helpful.

The hospital where I delivered my baby billed my newborn for a daily revenue code of 0172 (special care nursery) even though my child received no specialized monitoring or treatment. Everything I’ve read it should have been billed as 0171 (well newborn nursery). I have tried reaching out to hospital but have been stonewalled and only been told “it’s right” without any supporting documentation. I’m curious what other new moms got billed for their healthy newborns who required no feeding tubes, jaundice treatment, NICU care, etc. Thanks in advance!

My husband and I are discussing if these videos are enriching for our baby to watch. I think it provides visual stimulation because of the colors and moving around. But he thinks it’s brain rot. What do you guys think? I only put it on for about 20 minutes one or two times a week. I do lots of play time and tummy time with her. We have a subscription box for Montessori toys for her age range and we engage in that every day. So she’s not sitting in front of the tv all day watching this. I think it’s fine but I also want to respect what he thinks too.

Each mom has their own experience with taking care of their child, what product do you wish existed that’ll make task, baby care, or lifestyle easier?

So I have a 1 month old baby, he’s been getting redness in his cheecks. it started off as pimples and now they’re everywhere to the top of his head and stops in the neck area. He was recently diagnosed with ear infection, but he’s been getting crusty spots around the nose. Is there anything we can use to clear up the redness? And can the crust in his nose be removed? I just don’t want him to get a scar from it.

I’m a FTM to a lovely 4-month-old baby boy. He sleeps through the night, enjoys being around people, and is generally a very happy, smiley baby. I know that compared to a lot of parents, I have it easier in many ways, and I truly am grateful for that.
But lately I’ve been feeling like I’m not allowed to complain because of it.
Even an “easy” baby still needs constant care. My son barely naps during the day, mostly short catnaps only when he’s absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he just wants to interact, talk, be entertained, be held, and engage constantly. He’s usually smiling and cooing while doing it, which somehow makes me feel guilty for feeling overwhelmed.
But my back hurts all the time, both my hands, especially my thumbs, hurt, my hair is falling out, and I feel like I never get time for anything else. And if I do get a break from baby duties, there’s always some housework waiting for me. I get migraines because I am so tired.
I am on maternity leave and my husband works from the office but he does share baby care and household responsibilities when he’s home, and I appreciate that. But I’m still tired. Really tired.

I think people sometimes forget that even babies who are “easy” are still a huge amount of work, and comments like “well at least he sleeps” and “you should be grateful and not complaining.. people have it worse” end up making me feel bad for struggling.
I don’t really know what I’m looking for with this post. Maybe just to vent. Maybe to hear from other parents who felt exhausted even when things looked easier from the outside.

I keep reading posts and people talk about their 7 week old baby sleeping through the night and I wonder what I’m doing wrong. Our son wakes so frequently still and wakes up a lot even if I hold him. I attempted cosleeping a few times but it’s no different from him being on his bassinet. I currently do the night shift from 12am to 6am, and my husband (he is on pat leave) picks up from 6am to 12pm. I can honestly say I’m grateful for sleep as this shift works for us. My husband goes back to work in a couple of weeks and I’m terrified of how we are going to make a new shift work by splitting the night. Any suggestions on how we can go about it? My husband has to leave at 7am.

I love my baby so much. I just feel so defeated when I read of other mothers having success getting their LO to sleep long stretches at night. He barely does that in the day unless he is being held. For reference, he will sleep an average of 1 - 2 hours during the night. Sometimes waking before an hour now. I assume he is going through that sleep regression at 6 - 8 weeks but is he really? Or is this now my life. He never really slept any different before hitting 6 weeks.

Help, my two month old is sick, she has snot I know that much she might have it on her chest and nose
I’m so scared I’m going to lose her after a Google search,
She sleeps fine but isn’t her normal self this morning and I know this sounds so stupid but I’m scared of the worst happening I have nasal saline spray for her but worried it isn’t actually flushing her out and she could stop breathing because she’s still new to this world, maybe she won’t breathe through her mouth if needed,
Being sick myself doesn’t help and I have a low immune system so it’s hitting me hard, please advice reassurance anything helps

I don't know if this sounds weird, but sometimes the love I feel for my daughter is so intense that it almost overwhelms me.
I'll just be looking at her playing or sleeping, and suddenly I'm filled with so much love that I want to cry. I miss her when she's asleep, worry about her all the time, and can't stop thinking about her.
I never knew it was possible to love someone this much. Some days it feels beautiful, and other days it feels almost overwhelming because my whole world revolves around her.
Please tell me I'm not the only one who feels this way. Is this just a normal parent thing?
Also, for those of you with older kids, how did you mentally prepare yourself for sending your baby to school? With all the news stories about children these days, I already find myself anxious thinking about it, and my daughter is still so little. How do you cope with those fears and still let them grow and be independent?

If there were a simple guide that helped you figure out why your newborn woke up at 2 AM and suggested what to try next, would you actually use it? What would you want it to include?

Am I the only first-time mom who spends more time Googling than actually sleeping?

Every night I ask myself:

• Is this a sleep regression?
• Is my baby overtired?
• Should I feed again?
• Is this normal?

I feel like every article, TikTok and Reddit comment says something different.

Does anyone else feel like they're drowning in conflicting advice?

Hello. I’m a mommy to a 10 month old bright girl. We just moved to Yonkers. Although it’s early I wanted to get started on her education. Based on this we may be moving deeper into Westchester. We would like the PEARLS PROGRAM. But I know it is lottery based. In that case, I’m asking for advice and opinions on possible places to send her for school such as preschool and elementary recommendations that won’t break the bank. Please and thank you!