r/highnurtureparenting

At what age did you/ will you put your child at daycare? Why? And how did/do you feel about it?

We have been already almost 2 years on my husband’s salary and it would be so nice to get another salary so we can breathe a little more. But I really don’t want to offer up time with my 1 year old for that. We have almost made up our minds about waiting until he’s about 2 yo. It’s such a sucky way for society to be like this where mothers often end up sacrificing so much in their working lives (no pension, no advancement in career) while basically doing one of the most important jobs in society. The daycares here have high standards, but they aren’t supported enough by the government and it keeps getting worse not better. 6 kids per employee, 3-4 if they are small. Can you imagine? Lowest salary possible for all of that responsibility.

I have a 9 month old. My husband had to go into work today. I have some sort of stomach bug. I co-sleep on a floor bed and was basically curled up in the fetal position all night and running to the bathroom in the middle of nursing. Today isnt much better. I currently have a lull in my nausea and i just got my baby to nap. I think ill just lay by him on the floor bed. But i dont know how to survive all day when he is awake. He doesn’t do much independent play and he is not the type to cuddle. Earlier I just laid on the floor of the play pen wrapped in a blanket while he crawled around and intermittently fussed. We dont do screentime, but i eventually turned on Ms Rachel as I laid there. I feel bad to let him fuss some but he wouldnt just sit by me and I was feeling so sick. Not sure how to survive the rest of the day.

We often talk about the challenges (valid), but what win did you have this week.

I'll start, my girl only woke once two nights in a row and that was lovely. She has also been super affectionate and cuddly. Right before bed has been such a nice time to connect instead of stressing about it is taking XYZ minutes to fall asleep.

I know this isn’t rational lol so if there’s anything you can offer to make me feel better that’d be great! My almost 8mo has been only cosleeping with me since around 6 weeks old and contact napping as it’s the only way he would sleep at all, and I’ve always been totally for it and love the attachment I’ve given him. I was prepared to be stuck in contact naps for much longer as I had low expectations. Once he was about to turn 6 months I started trying to do just his first nap in the crib and it’d always be just 30 min on the dot. Transfers were suddenly going really smoothly. It was nice cause I could just have a second to myself, easily make breakfast, whatever it may be. After like a month he randomly did an hour, and I slowly started trying for his other naps too. He still does 30 min a lot but he’s even gone up to 2.5 hours napping in there without a fuss!! I’m a SAHM and I cosleep and nurse him all night. I love it but it’s a lot, so it is really nice to have the time to myself during those naps. But yet I was so prepared for him to not take to it that I was dedicated to giving him that high nurture contact all the time, that I have this guilty nagging feeling in the back of my head!! But rationally I know he is just fine and gets SO much from me and I’ve never left him to cry so I know if he really didn’t want to nap alone, he’d cry for me. But alas, he’s doing just fine on his own! So I’m trying to enjoy it😅 I know so many people would kill for this at the end of the day!

Bedtime is another story though lol…he NEEDSSS me.

How do you handle tantrums/meltdowns? My 19 mo has just started screaming and crying for just about everything and I'm struggling. I try to comfort her but that just seems to make it worse. I've tried redirecting her attention to something else and that also doesn't seem to work. How do I handle this without just letting her scream and cry for 30 minutes?

My LO is almost 14 weeks and seems to dislike sitting in the car seat. Sometimes we have to take 2-3h drives and since she's on the sensitive side, naps are highly important. When in the car seat she will be fine until she gets tired. She ends up crying until she can barely breathe. It's the only time she ever cries like that. I always sit in the back with her and it always ends up with having to pull over and get her to sleep on me but we'd have to sit with her until she finishes her nap and is well rested and that can take a while.

Any advice on how to make car rides more enjoyable for her enough for her to be able to nap in the car? She used to be capable but this all changed a few weeks ago.

Any tips are welcome.

For those who celebrate Mother’s Day.