I (F33) found undies that didn’t belong to me in my partner (M35) of not even a month yet’s room, on my side of the bed.
I (F33)am really having a hard time getting past this. I found undies that aren’t mine on the floor in his (M35)room last week. When I asked him about it he said he was getting something out of a box and saw them and got upset and threw them across the room. I flew out to see him and so i didn’t really have any way to leave him. After a while of silence, me heading to another room to get away from him repeating himself over and over again. I decided to forgive him. We finished our conversation and then we had sex. I’ve only seen him 3 times and we haven’t been dating for even a month.
I’m crazy for forgiving him right? I am going through so many emotions right now it’s crazy. I didn’t cry when I found them I was honestly just in so much shock. I kind of knew it was too good to be true with him but like the thing pulling me back and giving him the benefit of the doubt is that he told me he loved me for the first time before I got there. I need advice, I still want to see him, I told him I forgave him and can’t really go back on my word. How would you all handle this in your relationship?
TLDR: found another girls undies on my partners floor on my side of the bed. When confronted he made up an excuse of them belonging to his ex girlfriend and him being mad at them and throwing them across the rooms. I forgave him but fear made the wrong decision. How you’d you handle it?
Edit to add: he wasn’t love bombing me, we have “been together” for over a year with the exception of a 3 month break. Regardless, you guys are telling me the things I feel but am too nice and afraid to hurt his feelings to share with him. I selfishly don’t want to let him go because he was my first and I loved him deeply too. I’m just having so many conflicting emotions.