What do you think
we were in a situation for almost a year in 2025 and things ended because he couldn’t commit to me. we never went on dates, we would literally just watch films and chill together. there was no talk of the future or dates.
once we ‘ended’ we both went on to sleep with other people about 3 months after separating. then we rekindled and things were going well, but when he found out I had slept with someone (F28) he actually knew this person and was deeply hurt, I had no idea and he was disgusted in me for even sleeping with someone in the first place.
when I did sleep with someone new, I quickly began to realise I was about to enter another meaningless situationship and I ended it because I knew I wanted something more for myself and I made the hurt I was going through even worse because I felt like I let go of my morals and self respect by considering anotehr situationship, but sadly theyve all I’ve ever really known.
anyway, this all came out in the open in January, it’s now may we decided to work through things. he says now he still feels tortured by the thought of it everyday but he loves me and doesn’t want to lose me and I feel the same way towards him. This time round we have been acting like we are in a full blown relationship (even though we still aren’t official) but our actual relationship and bond is so loving and beautiful - I think we both see and acknowledge that what is shared between us is something special. It is taking a lot of forgiveness and my M30 is dealing with emotions such as betrayal because he knew he person I slept with.
we are really trying to grow as people and also together to work past this and I’ve read so many horrible things on Reddit about how it’s never going to work if you take an ex back. Granted we weren't even together in the first place but I was just hoping for some positive encouragement or to hear success stories of similar situations actually having a happy ending? As much as I try to enjoy just being together I do worry one day it will just end because he can’t get over what happened even though I also have to forgive him for ended things with me because he couldn’t commit, to only go and be with someone else too? - but I think because he knew the person I slept with that’s why he’s struggling so much.