Hello everyone i need advice, i don’t know what to do or say in this situation.
For context, I am bi. I have been openly out since im 18. I am now 28F and I have a boyfriend 25M, we’ve been dating for 4 years now. He knows that i’ve dated women and men in the past. My last relationship was with a women.
I have become extremely close to a friend over the past year and a half (27F) she basically became my best friend, its the first friendship that i have had that became like sisters so fast. We spent alot of time together at my house and her house, we even created a small clothing and accessories personnalisation company together. We are extremely close, she is like a sister to me.
A little bit about me, I’m someone who’s really comfortable in life when I’m close to someone. I don’t care about changing in front of my friends or my friends coming to talk to me while I’m in the shower 🤷🏻♀️ i am very comfortable in my body.
When im at my besties house, me and my bestie joke around a lot and sometimes my BF can call like 10 times when I’m there for a couple hours and asks what we’re doing. After 3–4 calls we end up answering “we’re doing the scissors ,” but we’re joking because he’s called like 4 times in 2 hours asking what we’re doing.
And yesterday he completely freaked out at home, my bestie was there. It got to the point where he didn’t even know if we were joking anymore because before I actually did do that with girls in the past since im bi. That I shouldn’t "show" myself infront of friends, that its not acceptable and he is almost considering it like cheating. Like WTF its not like im getting naked and yelling HEY LOOK FRIENDS IM NAKED, LOOK AT MY BODY ! 🙄 I feel like because im bi he thinks that i want to sleep with my best friend because i dont hide when she is here. I mean its my body, my choice ?? Am i overreacting?? I shouldn’t be ashamed of my body (i am a plus size girlie) or be ashamed because im bi ?? Now i feel like i cant be myself anymore and i don’t know who im dating anymore
I lost my temper, like wtf—just because I’m bi, I’m supposed to isolate myself in case I suddenly want to sleep with everyone 😞 in the summer i wore sexy bikinis and he doesn’t complain though? I really don’t get it, it came out of nowhere.
Am the ahole ?