The dreaded question
So I've just been to a baby shower. It was for a friend I love dearly and I'm always happy to join and celebrate another person's happiness even if it's not my definition of happiness. I knew most of the girls and they all know I am child free and don't bother me with it ever. Then there were the girls I didn't know... A new mom was there with a 3 months old... So obviously, most of the topics of conversation were around kids and maternity and pregnancy. I don't mind, it's a baby shower. I know it's expected. I just don't have anything to tell to contribute. So at some point, that woman looks at me and asks "are you a mom ?". I'm like nope lol "Is it a project ?" Hum no, absolutely not. Then comes the shocked stare then the inevitable "You know I didn't want a kid for 10 years and now I'm a mom". Another joins in "same for me ! I didn't want kids but it was just because I was in the wrong environment then I got pregnant and we decided to keep the baby'. So I'm trying to be respectful of my friend's friends and explain that I have never wanted any, nor did my husband. That I'm pushing forty and still don't want any. And since you can never win with these people... "women over 40 have kids all the time!". Yeah... that's not the point... "Should I get pregnant by accident (which is an absolute stretch), there's not a doubt in my mind or my husband's that we are not keeping it". Of course they were appalled and a friend jumped in to redirect the conversation before I completely lost my shift.
What's the fucking deal in pushing babies on other people ?! You like babies? Go make them! Leave me the fuck alone. Every fucking time I meet new women that are moms I get the question. And that's fine but please, just say ok and move on! You don't need to do a 15' speech to persuade me to make a baby. There's nothing on this earth that could make me want a kid. Worst is, I'm always respectful of other people's choices even if they don't align with mine. Can't you people respect childfree people ? Like what difference does it make for you ?
Anyway. Rant over lol