u/Bubbly-Leadership-12

**trigger warning towards end** Hi there…I’m a 28(f) and I’ve struggled orgasming on my own & with my partner. Anytime I’ve orgasmed it’s been from a vibrator. I don’t do it often but it’s literally the only way I can finish & I tend to finish fast. I’ve been able to finish once using my own fingers but I literally had to go ham on my clitoris and it took so much effort I can’t even try to replicate it again…I’m just so frustrated because my partner gets frustrated I can’t finish (he’s only mentioned it twice but I know it’s on his mind)…penetration feels great but when I’m rubbing myself I don’t even know what to do or how to find a rhythm. I’ve also tried using vibrators and it’s hard because I’m not skinny and my partner goes so fast it moves the vibrator…Also when my partner does it sometimes it feels too sensitive. It makes me feel so self conscious and less of a woman…I’m constantly in my head and self conscious of my body because I’m not skinny. I was also abused as a child and was very hyper sexual from a very young age…I’m not sure if that has something to do with it…I just don’t know what to do anymore. Any advice/books/videos would be greatly appreciated.