Im like 99% sure it isn’t an STD, but I can barely talk and I feel like I’ve completely lost my voice. Does anyone have any tips?
Each blowjob is about 20 mins long and his dick isn’t thaaat big so I can’t really imagine what would even cause it.
I’m looking for tips on ways to help with the pain or also techniques that could cause less irritation
Thanks!
My BF recently hurt his lower back and while trying to be in missionary didn't work out well. The only thing that may work is missionary off the edge of the bed. What else do you guys think? What positions won't hurt him. He's worried to do more harm. We haven't done anything for about 2 weeks. He's gotten a lot better. But fears to reinjure himself.
How many times do you make love vs. have regular sex vs. do the real dirty stuff? The other day, I realized that my BF and I rarely make love (which is fine, I have no complaints about our sex life) but that got us talking about our ratio!
so after sex im not always satisfied and always want to touch myself to orgasm, now basically we are both tired and in bed and can’t really ask them to get out of the room so i can finish the job? is it better to tell them it’s okay to stay in the room or? i don’t mind if they were in the room doing their own thing but i don’t like being looked at while o touch myself, 20f. i need help to communicate this since i’m afraid they would be sad or insecure about it.
I cum pretty quickly. Been looking for fixes for months to last a bit longer. Everywhere I read says do Kegels, so I am starting to do kegels and edging for 20-30 minutes before ejaculating (masturbating). My question is, how do kegels improve PE? Are you supposed to be doing a kegel WHILE your penetrating, or is it only right before/at the point of no return? Are you strengthening with kegels so you can prevent yourself from cumming once you reach that point or is it to prevent you from feeling like you're getting to that point? Trying to research it but nobody really gives definitive answers, just "do kegels".
Also working on breathwork, they say focus on 6seconds in, 6seconds out... does tis really work? is this to activate ur Parasympathetic NS to prevent you from getting too excited?
Sorry alot of questions here. Thanks for reading/answering (if you do)
I'm seeing a guy and we've had sex a few times now, I'm not very experienced and he's the first guy who has ever gone down on me because previous guys didn't enjoy it. But he's only done it with me on my back so far. Last night he asked me to sit on his face and I didn't really know what to do. It got a little awkward but he resolved the tension quickly by kissing me and just moving on to something else, I appreciated that a lot. But now for next time, what am I actually supposed to do when he asks me to sit on his face? Any advice?
Thank you
29 F.
Engaged to long-term boyfriend.
I don’t know what the hell happened, but things aren’t good in the bedroom. I need any insight I can get.
I recently started a medication for mental health (Wellbutrin) and my libido has drastically increased. Like multiple orgasms daily (by myself) is never enough. Sex with him happens probably once every few weeks, if I am lucky, and it revolves around his pleasure. He says he wants to make me finish but just expects it to be as easy for me as it is for him. He doesn’t last long (probably because he only finishes every few weeks) and doesn’t touch me after to finish me off. In fact, I’ve never been able to finish with someone. I literally lay there after sex like Woody from Toy Story if he were blue-balled.
I am a bit strange in the sense that I have to masturbate on my stomach in order to finish. I’m embarrassed by this and he knows that. He knows I’m not very confident (5”4, 170 pounds) My advances to him are often rejected and I seem to choose to internalize this, I guess. I don’t bug him for saying “no” because I wouldn’t want the same pressure either. Still, I feel gross and discarded. I shy away after he says no and I hide so I can cry without making him feel guilt.
I saw he was frequently looking at a pole dancer from our area.. a girl who is the complete opposite of me. I see women that are much more attractive than me on his FYP on instagram, doing squats and close camera to their parts etc.,… I know this is likely showing up because of his searches. *sigh* Why am I never enough??
From this new insecurity I’ve discovered, I’ve developed a really bad relationship with food. I try not to eat at all until I feel sick and I drink broth/stock to tie me over. I know this is NOT the way to lose weight, but this has cut me so very deeply. I beg him for sex. He says no. He is looking at other, more attractive women instead.
He “caught” me masturbating on my stomach yesterday and gave me the weirdest look. He asked what I was doing so I panicked and said I was half asleep instead of admitting that I needed relief somehow if he’s not going to provide it. I can’t win.
I. Am. Beyond. Frustrated.
I feel unwanted. I feel unattractive. I’ve told him these things and he insists that he loves me and is attracted to me and reminds me that he got with me when I was a little bigger than I am now.
It kills me because I love him so deeply. I want to experience deep intimacy with him but there is a wall up. I am very sexual and have a lot of kinks. I can’t even bring any of them up to him without feeling immense shame. If I can’t even masturbate around him, what the hell am I doing!? I can’t live life like this.
My heart hurts because I know I deserve to feel wanted. I know that there is likely some man, somewhere, who would absolutely love to catch a girl playing with herself.
I always say “maybe in another life” but that’s not reasonable. I only get to live once and I want to have some fucking fun. I want to have sex with someone who just accepts that I’m a little chubby/doesn’t make me feel like I need to hide my belly. Someone who is devoted to making me finish.
Thanks for reading ♥️
I just turned 20 a few weeks ago and for full disclosure I am a virgin, not in the sense of asexuality or for lack of opportunity but I have a serious aversion toward letting women anywhere near my dick, ive been in multiple relationships and done medial things like fingering foreplay even let this red head jack me off one time but the issue evolves when faced with the daunting task of putting it in her mouth or inside of her its like an unstoppable force meeting an immovable object I have this perpetual fear that once I do so if she moves the wrong way it will snap, or if I put it in her mouth she could close it, its a matter of self preservation lmfao how do I go about mitigating and fixing this
I have been in a relationship with my girl for around 2 years . We have been have sex every 2-3 weeks from last 6-7 months but here comes the issue. I dont enjoy myself while having normal sex. I prefer oral sex than normal sex. This is happening from past 1-2 months. After oral my girlfriend wants me to have normal sex but i just dont enjoy it and i feel forced. After doing it i feel disgusted and it hurts my penis a bit. I am not able to confess this to my girlfriend as i love her very much and our relationship (not sexual is very smooth). Its not that i dont like sex at all , i like the oral part. I pleasurise my girl and she does it too. We have tried all kinds of stuff orally ( boob , blow job , going down to her private area ) i enjoy this but after that comes the normal part which i dont feel good about it and want to avoid. I dont have courage to speak to her as she helps me all stuff and really cares about me and same i do too.
Any suggestion appreciated.
Been learning some things about my wife lately. I’ve been connecting with her on a deeper level after having an almost dead bedroom for a while. It’s been great. We’re both 46 and have 4 children together. She really likes the eye contact and connection we’ve been having. I’ve noticed her postponing the deed until I fall asleep and then she goes to town on herself or by herself. Or she’ll take a bath and then be really relaxed and go to sleep. It’s like her solo time is a sleep aid. She’s big into the fantasy romance books and it seems her horniness corresponds to when she is getting to the steamy parts of her book. It starts to bother me when she uses me for fore play and then finishes in her fantasy land without me. She doesn’t know that I know that she’s taking care of herself but I’ve literally watched her do it when she thought I was asleep. She’ll even check and make sure I’m asleep first. Tonight I saw her sit up and stare at me and I asked her, why are you staring at me and she said she was checking if I was asleep. Oh ok.
Not sure where I’m going with this but I am bothered.
Edit: we have sex once a week. She does get off when we are together. She gets on top and controls the grind until she goes. She shakes, it’s real. But then she’s playing (alone) more than I am so it seem I’m a little jealous I guess?
She’s super shy to talk about what she’s doing, grew up very conservative and sex was shameful and all that so trying to talk to her can be akin to shaming.
I am pretty much wet in my underwear all day. I have no clue why. When I’m with my boyfriend I actually get so wet you can see it soaking on the OUTSIDE OF MY PANTS. I have no unusual discharge or weird smells at all it’s just clear fluid. Is there like a supplement I can do to help with this? Or anything? When I’m not turned on my underwear is still wet but when I’m with my boyfriend and turned on it gets suuuper bad. I have had an IUD for the past 3 years so could that be a factor? This is something new within the past few months and I wasn’t always like this
For a straight married couple, husband wants to perform cumkiss - snowball, wife is ready for the same, but as soon as he ejaculates, dopamine rush diminishes, his fantacy goes away. Can anyone help how the mind can be trained for cumkiss - snowball?
Thanks.
I'm not a spring chicken and have identified as a lesbian for a long time. There was never any doubt in me. And that's not going to change. I don't want a serious relationship with a man, but I have been mulling over first-time sex with a safe man for a long time now. As I've heard mentioned before, I'm "a lesbian with a cock fetish."
I don't expect this to be anything like sex with a woman. In fact, that's kind of it- I want the "full experience," you know, a sensual thing gentle or rough. Though I don't think I could ever kiss him or just adore his body or anything. That's why I kind of need SAFE... someone who will let us kind of grow into that sensuality without a relationship, because I don't find men attractive on the surface. Besides the cock, of course... ::laughing so I don't cry ::
There is no threesome potential here. Actually, I've never had PIV sex even with a woman. So I'm really scared that I'm going to get taken advantage of, and scared of pain and such in general... some 10 second sex and a paranoia that he would want more or to do something stupid like stalk me. So it needs to be understanding, safe, and in a neutral location.
Where the hell do I find this setup without hitting a bar or club? I'm introverted and it isn't my scene.
ETA: I'm in my 30s so this isn't some whim or some easy find.
really frustrated with myself, torn between finding a random guy to have sex with or waiting for someone to randomly come into my life (chronically ill and mostly bedridden now mind you) and form a great connection with them and do things the way i would find respectful and responsible for myself and my boundaries. like my first time i was emotionally coerced into sex and did things i didnt want to do and got “broken up with” after. i also had a pregnancy scare as well. what a way to lose my virginity. that was in 2024, now i feel like im losing my mind. im almost 20 and how do i put this i want to have fucking sex with someone. like i just need sexual intimacy. is it me wanting to replace a violating experience or wanting the actual person? because if im seeking a random person then its not genuine for me. then they dont know everything i like and what turns me on and makes me feel safe. how do i navigate this? im petrified of getting an std or anything. i was so lucky i didnt when i had sex w that guy. i was so uneducated about sex, i didnt know if he pulls out and goes back in u can get pregnant, let alone still get pregnant without a condom and him pulling out. i get really clingy as well and i dont want to give myself to someone who would walk away again. i just want to be a human being and have sex bro its not fair that i cant be like other people and just do it and hook up w someone i barely know and it not be horrifying.
hello, i got sex for the 3rd time, but im worried of something:
after sex, i got this clear but orangey (my gf did bleed a little, so i think this is the reason) substance on the base of my dick and a little on the condom.
i came inside and got it out inmediately, all the juice was in the tip of the condom (nothing leaked out). after i took it out i noticed the substance i talked earlier.
im worried if this might be something like precum, all the movement might leaded to a leak??? i mean a leak from the base of the condom (the ring)
do yall recommend my gf taking a postday? only for concern
i would appreciate any information yall got
I've seen many posts about how to deepthroat, how to give blowjobs, how to go down on a woman, how to penetrate deeper, how to penetrate shallower but I don't think I've seen a post detailing how to get cum out of your hair/beard.
I've been wondering because I've been thinking about facials a lot lately, but the idea of getting cum in my hair and having to clean it off is a major turn off.
Is there a quick and easy way to get rid of it? Or it is just wash your hair with cold water, shampoo/condition and that's it?
Thank you for the help.
My F25 partner M26 and I have been together since senior year in high school. Over the last year we’ve been exploring and delving into our fantasies ect. It’s now pretty clear, after a year of talking about and leaning into our fantasies, that he has 2 major fantasies. Lately he’s been letting me know that they both surpass any other fantasy or kink for him and he equally wants them to become a reality.
One of them is for him to have sex with a milf. Specifically one that isn’t being pleasured at home and is desperate for good sex. He hasn’t mentioned how/if id be involved in that dynamic yet and seems slower to open up about this one. Although he has said both of these he wants to happen.
The other is a cuck/hotwife scenario, wanting to sit with me while he gets several bbc men to fuck me.
I’m just after some insight, perspectives ect surrounding the combination because they seem contradicting psychologically for him and I’m struggling to figure out/see the underlying meaning it may have to how he views me and what he wants if that makes sense. Genuinely curious and feel there’s something to this and can’t put a finger on it.
ngl we are getting more and more comfortable with each other and are inching having sex
but first he wants to eat me out and i’m so scared.
part of me really wanted to say yes but my fears took over. i’m so worried i won’t taste good or i smell down there. or perhaps i’m not shaved thoroughly
i was trying to explain to him all that but he keeps insisting. im so afraid though. at time i can be a heavy discharger but i use panty liners. also, i have a slight leakage problem with my bladder but ngl its not bad.
advice?
TL:DR
People with a Jacob's ladder: how has this changed your sex life? do you regret it? or what's the best part of it?
People on the receiving end: what was your experience with it? would you say it's better than without? what was the best kind of male piercing you've experienced?
I'm sorry about the long read. I got highly curious and wanted to express my thought process herein.
Dear pierced people of Reddit. Recently my girlfriend told me about one of her smut books. In one of those books she described a scene where one of the male characters was described with having jewels engraved on the base of his penis. Those jewels were placed in a row from bottom to top (or the other way around, I can't exactly recall the details). at the time I thought nothing of it.
An acquaintance of mine used to be a prison guard. He told me quite a time ago about a phenomenon called 'pearling'. This is where prison inmate cut the shaft of their penises and placed pearls in those wounds for it to heal resulting in a certain kind of body modification. Gory stories always peaked my interest and I started reading about the phenomenon. I started doing research and the main reason those inmates did that was because of cultural reasons and because the 'pearling' is supposed to heighten the sexual pleasure of their partners. and suddenly there shone a dim light above my head. I got even more curious.
As I did my research, a few piercings genuinely peaked my interest, one in particular is the Jacob's ladder. Not the Frenum Jacob's ladder but an alternative, the Lorum Jacob's ladder? I have a very thin Frenulum and I'm a little scared about tearing that sweet, delicate piece of skin. I think I got a few times fairly close in the past. Thus the Lorum peaked my interest. (I'm the kind of person who needs to do research before doing such things.)
I had a long talk with my partner: Asked her if she had any experiences with penis-having partners, having any kind of piercings on their junior. She did not, but admitted that it always peaked her curiousity. she is a rather approachable and open person and has talked to people who had their genitalia pierced (and she has 1 herself) and told me that no one she talked to regret their decisions (including herself). I absolutely believe her but I got curious about more stories and experiences before making my verdict final.
So far I'm leaning towards getting them. Though I'm satisfied with my sex-life as is, I want to know everything about the impacts of these piercings, negative and positives, since I want to make a well-thought through decision. I see piercings (and tatts, have a few of them) as a form of art and always wanted one (or a few) but nothing never really peaked my interest, until now. I want you guys to know that my girlfriend is not forcing me into this decision. She brought the subject to light in a strange fascination (and because I asked about her smut. Big mistake btw. Fellas, never ask your partners about their vampire/werewolf/warlock-hybrid boyfriends. < jk, just a bit of banter) She never talked about it but that one instance. It's 100% my own interest.
If you have one, I'm interesting in hearing your stories. How has this affected your life? How has it healed? Did you regret it? How easy are they to take off?
Was there something you had wished to know before or after getting them?
If you experienced one? also tell me everything about it!
Hey everyone I 22F am a virgin sorta… I am struggling to go all the way with someone I had a boyfriend about two years ago and the most we did was oral and he fingered me too in the time we were together I really wanna have sex I’m horny all the time but when the time comes i get nervous any advice would be extremely helpful thanks