AITA HELP ME PLEASE I
So I’m new to all this, and I’m starting to have doubts about my relationship. My girlfriend (32) and I (25, male) are starting to get more serious. We’re doing long distance for now, just for a bit.
She had a bad breakup about a year ago. I met her during all that chaos and, well, let’s just say I was trying to be a friend but completely fell in love. It took her a while to realize she felt the same.
Her ex (32, male) is now showing up again on her socials. She’s entertaining him and his little comments, like sending ab pics, telling her he’s hot, and saying she was the only one who f**ked him right.
We had a huge argument about it, but it kind of got swept under the rug. Today, she texted me saying she might start working in his city. They share — or used to share — an apartment, though she keeps referring to it as her apartment. She even asked him if, if she gets transferred to his city, she could stay with him. He said, “Well, of course, but you’re going to have to break up with your boyfriend.”
Before that, he was flirting with her, telling her how much he misses her and that he wants to try to make things work again.
Am I the asshole for feeling like she’s making our relationship feel unbalanced because of him? I told her I don’t want to control her, but I don’t like this, and she keeps saying, “I choose you.”